being a cis woman
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cute girl to hug
right now a shower
Less stress. Less worry. More time free to recuperate and enjoy things.
getting rid of Schizophrenia
I feel this one bud ❤️ its manageable condition, don't give up hope, and remember that no human has perfect perception
Ugh, how to tell a depressed dog person I want three cute catgirl girlfriends…
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The exact amount of money I have in debts at the moment.
If I was 100% debt free I could work 3-4 days a week with the same amount of money left as with debts.
This would reduce stress and give me more time and energy to improve myself
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Since hitting my 30s I've started getting really invested in middle aged man shit like sports and history podcasts. It's a cliche and basic in its own way but I'm genuinely surprised by the amount of joy these relatively simple things are bringing me. Especially when I could not have been less interested in sports as a youngster.
Yeah, never been a big football fan my entire life. After starting a serious career I kinda got swept up into it.
I realized in my early 20s I do actually enjoy spectating when I started following e-sports. I was disaffected for a while when that whole space got taken over by influencers, though.
To me it comes down to story lines. I love a great story, as we all do, and professional competition you get to see them unfold in real time. You get to root for your side as it happens and then connect with the people who were there too.
So, hoping to expand my list of topics for small talk football seemed like an easy win. I dunno, not everyone needs social lubricant but it helps for me to have something to ease my anxiety.
I still am a bit behind on all the mechanics but started playing fantasy and it helps get more fimilar with the players.
People reading this probably think I'm a real doofus because this comes natural to them. For me though, it's like discovering a whole new genre of music and getting to hear the hits for the first time.
I had a very similar experience.
Comparing my TV habits to my partner's I came to the conclusion that following sports is actually very similar to following a soap opera or reality show: you as the viewer are trying to predict the dynamics between the characters and what the outcome will be from a limited selection of possible outcomes. I think it's the combination of it being unpredictable - you don't know who will win - but also bounded in terms of possibilities (someone is going to win). That combination lets you kind of switch off your brain while watching it whilst at the same time being pure drama.
Not sure if that makes sense but thanks for reading my wacky theory!
No, this is how my wife describes it, lol.
A choice to be? (If only it were that simple.)
Too vague to sus out what's going on wit you. I guess I just hope you continue to chose to be.
Having no needs that anyone else can leverage against me.
Someone who occasionally makes me feel special. It'd be nice to feel special all the time, but I think that's unrealistic. It'd be nice if I could feel special or important on a semi regular basis. Not just useful, like a wrench is useful, but treasured.
The older I get, the more I understand the "lone old man and his dog" stereotype. The dog thinks you're great and everyone else just sees you like a machine that is disposable when they're done with you.
Mentoring is the fast track to feeling useful. It takes a bit of humility. No one wants to learn from someone who is intolerabley self righteous, but passing on knowledge will always be rewarding.
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Space and time away from everything, fresh air, sunlight, some peace and quiet, a slower and simpler way of life.
A job that: I'd love, is at a desk, pays well, is project based, asks me to set my own goals, holds me accountable, makes me feel like I'm contributing something positive for other people.
Right now, I would feel more fulfilled in life with something like that.
the only thing that could "make" me happy is a change in mindset, perhaps forced by brain damage.
as far as how I will make my own happiness, it comes down to making choices informed by my own values, painstakingly discovered through mistakes, introspection, and connections with others
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Not having to go into the office. I like my job.
Relief of stress, which is currently made by lack of money. So money, I guess. I think in smaller terms this chocolate chip banana bread will make me short term happy though.
Some stability in my life and a friend who gives good hugs.