I initially didn't understand the context of the question as I assumed you meant when taking a photo.
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I've never been the sort of person to ask or insist anyone to display a particular expression. But...
At times I've encountered friends, both male and female, that were struggling in life and crying.
Sometimes I would smile at them and say "Hey, you're leaking again"
I almost always got them to lift their spirits and smile, with a bit of a lighthearted chuckle even.
Though not a moment I'd take a photo of, out of respect, it still reminds me how easy it can be to get a friend to smile.
Do you have an example?
The only time I can imagine someone asking someone else to smile is when taking photos.
I don’t have an example because I knew it wasn’t a good thing to do, so I didn’t (and won’t!) do it. I just didn’t know why, but those who have responded have helped explain!
It is generally uncouth to tell anyone how to feel regardless of gender. Compel the person to feel through your own words and actions. If you fail to achieve the desired results, change your tact.
If you fail to achieve the desired results, change your tact.
Or maybe just leave other people the fuck alone to live their lives in peace.
I think you should ask men to smile more (like at the grocery store or gym) and see how it goes. 😉
Why do you feel the need to make "suggestions" about how women could look better? Or in other words, why would be of your concern if somebody is or isn't smiling and looking good for you?
You'll notice this behavior often happens with women on the receiving end of the "friendly suggestion" but rarely does it happen with men.
I don’t feel that need, and don’t tell people to “smile more” because I don’t understand why it’s problematic. I’m getting a clearer idea, though.
I don't think it's sexist. It's just rude, no matter who you're asking. I'd equate it to someone asking me to dress differently as if it's my job to please them.
Something I watched in my women empowerment group I go too on YouTube called "miss representation"
It's a old somewhat interesting documentary but may help understand.
I taught my dog to smile. "Smile pretty"and she would bare her fangs for a treat