By half-your-age-plus-seven rules he was only barely in the clear. Sus?๐ค
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I don't really like the age gap discourse. I think it is attempting to use identity politics to explain structural peobelms. Why is an age gap bad? Because cis het relationships are inherently bad and without sufficient experience to navigate them younger partners are likely to be hurt? Or because they are unlikely to lead to a successful marriage and kids? That's awfully partirarchy pilled. Let's imagine the converse. Which is better a boomer? Or a boomer that has stayed socially adaptable enough to be able to prosocially enguage with the younger generations? I get you don't want boomers being predatory in other spaces but that is a failure to develop the tools to exclude predatory people. Something about this discourse and skill based match making discourse is kicking around in my head and ai haven't figured out a dialectic answer to all this.
The issue with age gap discourse is that it often devolves into conflating the (visible) potential for abuse with abuse itself. There's nothing you can say about an age gap in a relationship between two consenting adults that wouldn't equally apply to a relationship between two people who make drastically different incomes, or who have different levels of social aptitude with their friends and family, or differences in physical size/strength. It also starts to feel like invalidating abuse that isn't immediately clear just from looking at the people involved.
90% of age gap discourse is just violent cattle looking for someone to antagonize
either you're a pedophile or you're not a pedophile
if you raise the consent-age two more years people will just adjust the ages and call you a creep for that
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Watching twin peaks rn and cooper 
Power dynamics.
if both people are adults and safe in making whatever decision they want then it's fine. I know someone who dates several decades above their age, I say have fun. People can be abusive manipulators to people their own age as well.
Power dynamics
only gay marriages are allowed (kinda based ngl)
