Had a hard time figuring out life in my early 20's. Sought help, and got a mental health diagnosis and some meds that I took for a while. 20 years later it's clear that it was either a misdiagnosis of simple existential angst, or I figured shit out in the meantime. Paying 40% more for life insurance and need reports from the doctor I haven't seen in 18 years each time I have to renew security clearance.
this post was submitted on 18 May 2025
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Iβm not diagnosed and Iβm seriously considering keeping it that way. My nephew is so hoping the political situation in the UK doesnβt go that way.
I am really glad and very priveleged to have been diagnosed with ADHD. However, I worry that my official diagnoses might put me in danger soon
I wish I straight up just didn't have the things I was diagnosed with. The diagnosis themselves haven't changed anything other than now I at least know I am not a piece of shit on purpose.
I wish I hadnβt been diagnosed with cystic fibrosis but mostly I wish I didnβt have it
I'm on the autism spectrum, with very low support needs. My health care provider has that in my medical records. Now I'm worried that I'm going to disappear into some camp, and my wife will never know what happened.
I've never been happier not to have an official diagnosis. My wife and I are considering our options.
Ireland? New Zealand? We both have semi in demand skills. I'm a tradesman and she's a social worker. Realistically we're stuck here but looking at what we might be able to do
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I know my wife wishes she had never been officially diagnosed with depression, as it precludes her from some jobs she wanted to apply for. How true this is is reality, I donβt know.
Not sure where you're located, but at least in the USA it's definitely illegal for an employer to discriminate against a medical diagnosis like that. They aren't even allowed to ask you private medical questions during the hiring process.
It prevents you from jobs like airline pilots, the rationale being that placing someone potentially suicidal in control of a plane full of people isn't a good idea. The rationale doesn't really make total sense but you can see why they'd think that way.
except that airline pilots end up depressed and untreated instead of just not depressed.
Oh yeah definitely, that's a major problem that's specifically created by this policy.
Nope, can't see it at all.
It's illegal unless there's a bonafide occupational qualification that your disability prevents you from performing. Like you couldn't apply for a job as a furniture mover if you're a quadriplegic and cry discrimination when they don't select you. And the employer can ask things like "this job requires that you lift heavy objects of up to 600lbs with the assistance of another person and a back brace. Do you have any medical or other reason you could not perform these duties?".
Now if that weren't a real occupational qualification, that'd be discriminatory. Like if they said you had to be a man for that moving job - there's no reason you have to be a man, you just have to be able to move 600lb things.
The government enters the chat
...diagnosis from who?
Myself: meh, I could be wrong, I'm not a professional.
Doctor: hahahahaha what? What am I? Made of money?
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I'm 50/50. On one hand it's interesting and good to know about yourself and your issues but it is a double-ended sword. I was diagnosed with ASPD a little while back among other things and while I'm glad I understand the root for a lot of my problematic traits I now also have a piece of paper that makes me look bad if I have to go to court.
Celiac is a real pain in the ass and makes me sound unhinged at a restaurant.
I'm just so tired of checking every single ingredient list.
Also tired of terms at restaurants like "Gluten Aware", "Gluten Conscious", etc. Then you find out everything is still going in the same fryer π«€
I really appreciate places like Subway and Taco Bell that just tell you up front they probably have cross-contamination on everything. Most places the workers don't even know what gluten is. When I explain, they think I should just say I don't want bread.
Also tired of terms at restaurants like "Gluten Aware", "Gluten Conscious", etc. Then you find out everything is still going in the same fryer
At least they're aware of it.
Gluten appears to be pixie dust just thrown about in kitchens and mass food production facilities. It is shocking how much contains it or is near it.
I haven't heard of a gluten aware restaurant. But the term sounds irritating.
How would it be better if you hadn't been diagnosed?
I guess I was thinking if I didn't have it, which means I could eat everything without having to ask a million questions or carefully researching products/ingredients.
If I wasn't diagnosed but still had it, I'd be very sick and malnourished.
I will never be able to get a small engine private pilot license due to fainting, despite it literally never happening unless I'm standing up...
Airplanes pull G, making it far more intense than being standing. You would absolutely faint in a plane; this one is kinda fair, sorry bud.
I've got 10 hours in a little ultralight. Pre-diagnosis. I'm not looking to fly a jet fighter. I get more G's in a hang glider.
...I agree with this one. You fainting in a plane turns you into a missile after all.
See, and this is why... Except, again, I only faint standing up. Ever.
It ainβt nothing, but fuckin eczema lol. Gotta lotion up every day and even then, sometimes you get random flare ups.
It's good to know that I was diagnosed with food allergies. I might not have ever known what was making me feel horrible all this time.
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