Find a way to change those foods into something you're comfortable with.

Textures are extremely easy to deal with. You can make soups, chopped salads, sauces, mashes, you can cook for longer, or even cook so long that it completely breaks down. There's so much cooking information online about how to change stuff up, that you just need to take some time and look up some recipes.

Flavors are also easy to deal with. Roasting vegetables is a game changer in terms of taste, and you can even use them as ingredients in other recipes or meals.

Meal prep and freeze. It's a lot easier to make a lot of something and store/freeze it for later.

“Well can’t you just try to put up with some of these things that bother you?”

That's pretty invalidating.

Personally, I have problems with runny things, eggs, floppy/over cooked vegetables, that squeaky feeling from biting on slightly boiled green beans, and cold food.

Fish is understandable. That can have its funk, flakes, and squeaky squish. I prefer a deep fried tilapia, but that probably wouldn't help. I can see mahi and salmon being weird with texture.

What vegetables are you trying to get more of?

For textures. I find cooking them into something else can help, like cauliflower can be boiled and mashed and then mixed into mashed potatoes. Or cooking inconsistent berries into a sauce for a meat or poultry dish. This can work on tastes and smells to an extent as well. Not a guarenteed resolution, but it helped me a lot.

My roomate has adhd but, they have this issue.

Anything with a watery crunch they won't eat. This is pretty much all fruits amd veggies. Cooking healthy is a huge pain. Event the little flakes in ramen packets need to be sifted out. I do all the cooking.

I've learned since it's all texture I just need to eliminate that. Gourds like squash and pumpkin are great because I can just cook the hec out of them then mash them into a paste. This eliminates a lot of nutritional value but it's better then nothing.

A food processor is also good. I can make anything into a paste. But finding things that taste good is tricky. And only some things can be processed enough to be void of texture.

Smoothies are good and along the same idea. But you can also make sauces just toss on a pasta. One I did was a bunch of tomatoes, spinach, onions. You could also make a squash based sauce.

Last option is just to supplement. Take daily multivitamins, fiber drinks, and eat less. This is not healthy but better then starving

I can relate. It's a constant struggle. I was able to lose 35lbs over about 10 months, but not until I realized I needed to want to lose the weight more than I wanted to enjoy the comforts of what my palate dictated. I know that's not what you want to hear, but as you get older, your window to figure out a solution shrinks before that cascade of health issues propagates. Above all else, know that you're a beautiful and significant person, period. Think about what you really want out of life, and how you can flip that switch.

I have severe problems with food. I've been taking supplements as a countermeasure. but still found no way to actually eat healthier, especially when I'm too stressed.

I’m a big fan of everything salads. I find that putting a lot of things I like together with a basic salad makes them much more enjoyable.

My basic recipe is:

Healthy: Spring salad mix Cabbage salad mix Grated carrot Grated beet Green peas

Fun: Goat cheese Roasted nuts Sliced steak Cubed apple Different dressings Nutritional yeast

If you have an option to, lose weight through exercise. Diet role should be as minimal there as possible (e.g. lower calories intake).

Other nutritional issues are best discussed with nutritionist that explicitly focuses on eating disorders. Bonus points if they focus on eating disorders in autism.

Regular nutritionists focus on general diet composition, eating disorders specialists focus on overcoming or avoiding aversions and behaviors that leads to an unhealthy diet composition.

Find a condiment you like. It's dijon mustard for me. If that's not enough, I add a crunchy topping like pumpkin seeds or nuts to distract from the texture.

Aside from "just try to get over it bro," all I can say is try to find something that you're ok with. If you can't, then you need to work on over coming your aversion.

There's nothing wrong with working around it unless it causes you some sort of impairment.