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[–] Draegur@lemm.ee 42 points 9 months ago

i wish you were crying in bed but in a hug.

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 27 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] bbpolterGAYst@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 9 months ago (1 children)

i dont actually own a skirt. i lied. i am crying in bed in PANTS

[–] Toes@ani.social 13 points 9 months ago

Pants are a crime, it's mandatory to work in your pantsu here

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Hey, I can't speak for others, but love seeing you here sweetheart. Remember: chin up, tits out. You got this.

[–] bbpolterGAYst@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 9 months ago (2 children)

i do not have tits but thank you

[–] brown567@sh.itjust.works 15 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Everyone has tits! Some are big, some are small, some make milk, but not all of them

[–] Malgas@beehaw.org 10 points 9 months ago

"Tits out" is a state of mind.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 21 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Has a mental breakdown in a feminine way 💅

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I'm not a fan of this mentality, crying isn't feminine it's what you do or should to when you feel bad and need to let it out. The idea that it's a feminine or unmanly thing to do is really toxic because crying is something we should all do when we need to, otherwise we bottle up the negative emotions which isn't healthy and doesn't feel good.

[–] Kornblumenratte@feddit.de 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

As I understood @TotallyNotJessica, they did not mean having a mental breakdown is a feminine thing, but wearing a skirt.

Having a mental breakdown the feminine way = having a mental breakdown while wearing a skirt, as OP proposed.

I'm still a tiny little bit offended by the idea that skirts are an exclusive feminine thing. There are male skirts.

Oh, that makes more sense, also I do agree that it is also annoying that skirts are considered exclusively feminine.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I'm not saying sadness and crying are feminine or that anger and stoicism is masculine. I'm talking about crying in pretty dresses or using your nails and high heels as weapons when you angrily attack. Pink straightjackets and padded cells. Be sad in a crop top and skirt. Pretend misogynistic remarks and actions don't bother you. Smile through your frustration when men assume you're incompetent. Act like a happy trad wife despite your husband abusing you. Smile through the pain if you're feminine and keep a poker face if you're masculine.

Not letting people know that you're an emotional being by bottling up your feelings is less gendered than one might think.

[–] Hammersbald@lemmy.world 16 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Does crying in a skirt feel better? Anyway, great to have you around here :)

It feels about the same as crying without one, but I'm sure it feels better than not crying at all and bottling up the unpleasant emotions as opposed to letting them out, which is what most people do. I recommend doing it if you feel bad, it's very unhealthy to bottle up your emotions, I've never done it, whenever I feel bad like I'm going to cry I just cry.

Obviously for people who have been conditioned not to it'll be harder to let it out, but you should try, you'll feel much better afterwards, trust me on that.

[–] kitedemon@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 9 months ago

Lmao this is meeee rn

[–] ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 9 months ago

That's right, I may be having a breakdown but at least I'm gonna be comfy and look cuuute :3