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egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics

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!egg_irl

!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.

If you are looking for a place to discuss something specific to you or especially if you need help or are in crisis, we have communities and resources that can support you linked at the bottom of this sidebar.

General Rules:

  1. No bigotry.

  2. No spam, bots, or vote farming.

Rules on Content:

  1. No reposts.

  2. No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.

  3. No visible names or usernames.

  4. Do not post or link to pornography.

Rules on Post Titles and Tags:

  1. Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".

  2. Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:

    • [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc]
    • [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem]
    • [CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary]
    • [CW: Transphobia]
    • [CW: Violence]
    • [CW: Weapons/Firearms]
    • [CW: Disturbing Imagery]

  3. You may optionally include other tags, such as:

    • [Transmasc Meme]
    • [Transfem Meme]
    • [Nonbinary Meme]
    • [Gender-Nonspecific Meme]

Rules on Post Text:

  1. If possible, include an image description for accessibility.

  2. Add sources for art.

Rules on Comments

  1. If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.

  2. You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as.

Recommendations:

We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.

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Do you like the egg_irl Titel Rule? (Nr7) (lemmy.world)
submitted 11 months ago by Feeee23@lemmy.world to c/egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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First of all, I'm not a mod, just a curious user. I was told the rules exist because it was a rule of the original reddit and the community demands it. For me personally, it feels like I'm told how to have fun, so I'm very curious if you like/dislike this rule or if you're indifferent.

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[–] rubythulhu@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I am a mod, but i am so out of passion. The original egg_irl on reddit is responsible for me finding myself as a trans woman.

The title rule exists to keep this place light-hearted. there are other places on this instance for deeper conversation, but this is first and foremost a place to share memes about eggs and gender questioning people and being trans.

The vast majority of community reports here are about breaking the title rule. Every once in a while there’s a spam report, or a report of stuff being off-topic, but mostly? just people breaking the title rule.

I get it. I thought the title rule was silly at first too. but it helps keep this place light-hearted and a place where people can flirt with their gender and/or dip their toes in the water safely, and make silly memes about the whole thing, without having to get serious about it and confront deep things within yourself you’re not ready to yet.

Sure, some random gru’s plan meme may topple you into that place anyway, but that’s the point. The only person who should crack an egg is the person inside that egg, and only through personal realization and self-understanding. The title rule helps us not step over that incredibly important boundary line.

[–] rubythulhu@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Also, another point here: In the rules you'll find a long list of content warnings. The title rule serves to make sure anyone who wants to avoid any type of post can do so without having to look at the content.

Anything you might want to put in a title, instead off egg_emojis_irl, you can put in the description underneath your meme. still get to say what you want to say, but it's all post-click, and not just appearing on someone's feed.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago

I feel like tagging shouldn't be optional, like they should be required to tag it as transmasc, transfem, nonbinary, nonspecific in addtion to a content warning if applicable, after all a transmasc person clicking on transfem memes could make them dysphoric and vice versa, hence why flairs are mandatory on the Reddit one.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago

The only person who should crack an egg is the person inside that egg, and only through personal realization and self-understanding. The title rule helps us not step over that incredibly important boundary line.

I very much agree with this, if only people in the Reddit version cared about this, many of the people I met there believed it was their duty to force people out who aren't ready, either because they didn't know better or didn't care. Also Reddit unlike Lemmy has the flaw of showing fully maximized posts in the feed so the title thing doesn't help, the bad stuff will hit you as you're scrolling.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 10 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I saw the post and comments in question earlier and thought to myself that it was dumb. Having a unique title for posts helps find them again if you're not in the habit of saving every single thing you come across, so I've always kinda hated the "every post needs this exact title" rule on various subreddits.

That said, I'm also not fond of titles that are 100% emojis.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I don't mind it but I wish people would add the content warnings, i.e. Egg_irl [CW: Assumes the viewer is Transfem] maybe also make CW posts NSFW, since they can be sensitive in nature.

[–] Fal@yiffit.net 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Trigger warnings don't help anything and can even be worse for people. Having to add warnings like that, especially about incredibly tame things like "assumes viewer is transfem" is just absurd

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I disagree, If a person doesn't want to see something with violence, transphobia, or disturbing imagery a Warning is good, because they can just not click on it (if you click it anyway that's on you).

Regarding assuming the user's gender (talking about gender as a whole) , It might seem tame or absurd to someone who isn't trans, or to a trans person who doesn't understand the existence of other identities outside their own (very common on reddit.com/r/Egg_irl) but they can cause dysphoria for many folks especially when blindsided by them, which they can avoid if they know before clicking on them.

[–] Fal@yiffit.net 1 points 10 months ago

That's all well and good that you're trying to prevent people from being upset, but they simply don't work.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-translator/202307/do-trigger-warnings-do-more-harm-than-good