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For me it feels like breaking up with someone after many years. At the same time, I feel a bit dirty mentioning the name in the post title.

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[–] Abridgedlife@latte.isnot.coffee 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am not sad. It started to feel a bit like a bad addiction. The huge increase in casual users also brought a whole bunch of corporate accounts running heavy PR activity on reddit, and quality of discussion has tanked, probably from a lot of bots commenting.

I stayed on Reddit a lot for support forums that were prone to brigading attacks. I know how hard the mods were working to keep the spaces constructive. Reddit is not only trying to sell my attention as a commodity they own, but also under appreciating the mods volunteer hours for why the site was worth it.

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[–] waspentalive@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (6 children)

It's like the Ikea lamp commercial. A person has a well-used lamp they have had for a long time. They go to Ikea and find a new lamp that is better and nicer. In the next scene, the old lamp is left on the curb. In the rain. alone. abandoned. The Ikea person comes on and asks "Do you feel bad for the old lamp?"

I only hope we eventually have some of the local communities that were subreddits of yore - like SacramentoBuyNothing - a place to share your old lam so it does not have to sit out in the rain at the curb.

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[–] Betazed@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 1 year ago

I'm not breaking up yet but I'm definitely gonna cheat a little while Reddit goes through their drama!

[–] exRedditor@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Definitely! I will miss my late-night reading and scrolling. Also, getting invested in comment sections and learning new things from strangers. I will miss Apollo so much.

[–] promodel@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like it's a break up with an abusive partner. I'm relieved but also sad.

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[–] bkkcitypokey@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

I do yes. I've been on that place for 4 - 5 years and moving out for the first time is quite a change.

[–] Ataraxia@lemmy.fmhy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

No. All I got from reddit was negative interactins and videos of decapitations... I think this is a good time to get away from that place.

[–] Crocrodile@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Personnellement je ne viens pas sur Lemmy Γ  cause dea mauvaises dΓ©cisions de Reddit, mais tout simplement parceque je pense que Lemmy est une meilleure place. Le fediverse est pour moi une rΓ©volution de l'internet actuelle et je me sens tellement plus confortable sur ces plateformes qui respectent mes valeurs.

[–] BeardedGuy@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Totally agree. My reddit account is 12 years old, and I was only just now starting to gain confidence that there would already be a sprawling community for a new topic I found. I know it will take a long time to get that feeling again, but it's also refreshing to see the fantastic discussions on this platform.

[–] Kerrangutan@lemmy.one 4 points 1 year ago

A little sad and a lot salty, my main account got suspended by reddit in retaliation for actions taken as a moderator and got totally ignored by members of the mod relations team and their oh so smugly named "anti evil operations" drones.

I'm sad Reddit is no longer the site it was

I'm glad that Spez and the rest of the reddit execs get to see their precious cash-cow die in flames.

[–] miles@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago

tbh i've been so sick of reddit lately that i've been spending time on 4chan again, which is really saying something

hoping the fediverse will put a stop to that lmfao

Absolutely. I had 86k karma, and wasted 3-4 years on there...

Not that much compared to some people but I like to think that I contributed a lot of content to the site.

Now I saw this crap and decided to move.

[–] manitcor@lemmy.intai.tech 4 points 1 year ago

16-year user here. Its been a long time coming, I've watched my friend spiral into a bad place and call me an idiot for being concerned. There is no saving these old networks. They will be around as bullhorns of whoever pays for them but even with the different usability I think its only a matter of time before people start to see "True Reddit" style material coming out of the fediverse and things start to grow less due to thee circumstancesbut more for the same reasons reddit and slashdot before them grew to begin with.

Even IF these networks never fall, no original social network was predicated on the idea that it MUST be for everyone. Thinking it needs to be is just monopoly enabler talk IMO.

Hmm~ I guess I feel sad a little, yeah. Reddit was a pretty cool place. Still is if you hang in the right communities. But I do most of my browsing using a mobile app as of late and if they're killing off RIF and Apollo, I might as well look elsewhere. I also feel a little optimistic about this "migration" slowly taking place, since this time it's not out of some knee-jerk reaction to admins banning some problematic subreddits, spawning places like Voat.

And the federated, open-source nature of Lemmy/Kbin/Mastodon reminds me of how a group of friends can create their own Discord server.

[–] Brad_Brace@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago

I guess I'm still in the denial phase. I haven't technically left reddit yet. I guess during the blackout, then I'll really know how I feel without it. I'll definitely have to leave once RIF stops working.

I'm just having a really hard time getting used to kbin and Lemmy.

[–] inmatarian@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

I've been on giant, corporate owned services for so long, I kinda forgot what it's like to be out in the cottage industry of small websites.

[–] vodnik@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I've been on reddit since the diggification. And to be honest, I miss the people. Reddit itself? I don't miss it at all.

But lemmy is turning out to be a nice place. Reminds me a lot of the old days of the internet, which I hope that we can some day go back to.

[–] Sowatee@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

Been on reddit for almost a decade. Watched it fall from a great website to the current day shithole. I'm relieved actually.

[–] buhala@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

Nah, honestly this is great. I missed the old Reddit with less people and a more community feel. This is fantastic!

[–] Cylinsier@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Honestly not really. I am not fully abandoning reddit either but in my case it's less about a boycott and more the fact that I almost exclusively access reddit on my phone and I find the official app genuinely too frustrating to use. This isn't even like an anger thing, I literally can't figure the piece of shit out. So once Relay is dead I am just going to be visiting reddit way, way less. From my perspective this wasn't my choice, reddit has forced me out. But for a good few years now I have been looking for an excuse to branch out. It's been a toxic cesspool of fascist enabling for some time so I am actually a little grateful this is happening now. I needed a little push to get myself off their platform for the most part. And so far the Lemmyverse looks pretty promising to me.

Nah, it's one of 1000 sites that rose and is now falling.

[–] CybrRunnr@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

I felt a little like that. I miss a few of my favorite subs. The β€œbreak up” feelings went away when I stopped lurking and started participating.

It's complicated. joined in 2018 right before they introduced new reddit and even back then there was a stigma reddit was "getting bad". However, reddit has been the best place for me to discover new things and the niche communities and interests were really great. I use an extension (that will surely die alongside the 3rd party apps) to find reddit comments associated with any youtube video that made my browsing really great.

The thing that makes me most upset is how they pulled out the rug from so many people and then acted like it was the people on top of the rug's fault it was pulled.

[–] thisisdee@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Absolutely! I was able to find so many communities and started new hobbies there. Any random thing I can think of, you can probably find a sub there. But I just have to remind myself that I was there for 12 years so it just takes time to find that elsewhere.

[–] SolNine@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I don't really care... Reddit is constantly spamming me with follow bots from Only Fans, and I have never posted in a NSFW sub.

I'm also hopeful the way this is structured we will see a bit better moderation of servers/subs.

[–] heartlessevil@lemmy.one 3 points 1 year ago

A little but it's not like we didn't know this was coming. I mean, Lemmy was made because they recognized that centralized platforms all follow the same cycle.

[–] Lumilias@pawb.social 3 points 1 year ago

Honestly yes, I had been using Reddit since at least 2010 and I was a strong forum user before that. Losing the community hurts, and fuck spez for forgetting his roots.

[–] DarkThoughts@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Not much. There's so much mod & admin abuse nowadays that I developed kind of a resentment. On top of that there's a lot of rude or downright hateful user behavior that seems to not just not get punished, but in some cases even encouraged. The only thing that lets me endure it for now is simply the community relevant content. As for kbin it needs exactly that. More users and content. Functionality of the site is good enough to be usable for me and will surely also improve but we really need the people and content to bring everything together.

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