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What exercises can I do to strengthen my willpower? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've realized that I'm very mentally weak and it's impacting my success.
I suspect I have ADHD and whenever I get an urge to distract myself, I rarely manage to resist it.
I think what I am missing is the residtance to discomfort that eg. allows sports people to carry on going even when their muscles are telling them to stop. Or the thing that allows people to defy themselves and step into an ice-cold shower.

Unfortunately I am not a person who enjoys sports and a cold shower is only something that makes sense once a day. Can you think of any exercises that I can do here and now in my room, and practice routinely that will strengthen my willpower so that I can better resist my urges in the future?

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[–] _haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago

Delayed gratification.

[–] lntl@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 years ago

Buy yourself a pack of cigarettes.

Smoke one, I promise it will be disgusting. Later that day, will yourself outside to smoke another. Repeat 2 or 3 times a day until the pack is gone. Live this way and be addicted to nicotine for a year. After a year, do it in reverse and quit.

Afterwards, you'll be able to will anything into reality.

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Siiiigh. I don't wanna. It's true though.

Cold showers.

Especially after warm shower for the first half.

You should aim to barely be reacting. Focus on your breathing to distract your whole nervous system from the feeling of discomfort the cold water brings.

You're training your body to not react to adverse events. To roadblocks, to shitty situations, to things that might otherwise derail you.

Cold showers are key.

Or, ya know... Batting cages.

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[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I've always felt that my willpower is the only thing I have any strength in. The trouble is, that in order to exercise my will, I must concentrate on doing so. With ADHD focusing on anything can be hard as fuck if there's too many distractions. So I eliminate the distractions (or as many as I possibly can).

[–] aja@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

Eat the frog

[–] simon574@feddit.de 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

What is it you are distracting yourself from? The low motivation could also be that you are not really believing in a goal or you are not enjoying a task because you would rather do something else with your time. As others already said if you "suspect" you have ADHD you could also try therapy.

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