Lemmy World mods doing something good for once.
No, US exceptionalism is turning every single general purpose community into US politics.
For the 4% of Earth's population that does indeed live in the US, there could be local communities.
I'm sorry to hear what you have experienced. Male abuse victims are not only real and valid, they are more common than people normally think. Every time I see some bullshit like "always a man", I lose my temper a bit.
And for as long as I can, I refuse to allow this echo chamber to exist. Unfortunately, the path of non-intervention does not seem to be helpful to me, as feminists just continue to be boiling in a circlejerk of fear and loathing.
I do not intervene when people speak of their actual negative experiences with certain people, I think it's actively harmful, but when it comes to such general hate messages, this is something I will not tolerate - much like feminists themselves back in the day did not tolerate men being dismissive of them as nothing more than dumb housewives, for example. Because it shouldn't be tolerated and breeds a skewed and dangerous worldview.
With that said, you do you, and with the experience and trauma you have faced, I 100% understand you not wanting to have anything with women you don't already know. I hope you'll have more positive examples around you, though, as most women, as I have experienced, still do not buy this misandric shit at least for the most part, and are not hostile.
I already do, and it's great!
It's just that this post evaded all my filters anyway thanks to phrasing :D
Luckily, I am not
Me: unsubbing every single politics community
Showerthoughts:
I see where you're coming from, and not gonna debate it further.
Still, to me it looks this division is growing, and hostility is barely ever a good answer. There seemed to be more unity and more decisiveness to approach things together just a few years prior, and I'm not sure what ended it.
I'd argue plenty of people are simply not aware such alternatives even exist, and don't bother researching.
Internet could be a different place if more people cared.
With that said, even then we'd probably be in a minority.
I tried to make it clear that women have a drastically different social experience. It is true, and it would be weird to debate it.
But we have to separate venting from finding solutions. My very point is that we often cannot practically address women's issues without addressing men's ones, and vice versa. Going one by one, you will quickly hit the wall, as men (or women, if we talk about men's issues) just won't be able to do what they're asked for. And instead of accepting that and working together, people tend to assume that the reason the other side doesn't change is because they act in bad faith. This is inherently imbalanced and unworkable.
I see where you're coming from, and I agree for the most part (and I also don't agree with people taking pitchforks on you), but the direction I take to "steer it away" is to look at it as something universal, which is simply more helpful to understand why it happens, not to tie attention to men's issues specifically.
I believe we've come at the point where women and men issues are so intertwined, so much permeating each other that it's no longer helpful to see them as separate issues to begin with. Sure, we have different experiences, but those very experiences come from the interaction of problems on both sides, and looking at them from one side is essentially screaming into the void and hoping it helps - and when it predictably doesn't, this leads to people vilifying each other instead of exploring the reasons behind it.
Everyone has to familiarize themselves with the issues other sides face, and come from the side of compassion if they want to be part of an actual solution. That includes men, women and enbies, too.
Tankies being seen as "the right" is the ultimate fuck you to the political coordinates :D