Allero

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[–] Allero 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

There is plenty, and the general sentiment is anti-war. It's just hugely unsafe to speak out publicly against the regime. In private, most people seem to agree that this is a bloody massacre nobody asked for.

[–] Allero 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Thanks - in any case, I'm happy I've got my point across to someone.

Correct on interpretation, and solid wording :)

[–] Allero 5 points 3 months ago
[–] Allero 12 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Kolanak?

Also, The Picard Maneuver

[–] Allero 2 points 3 months ago

Until you see that by going for short-term solutions, we may end up causing way, way more harm and have more women sexually assaulted, I don't think this conversation is worth having, either.

I sincerely hope we will be able to direct our attention at treating the source of a problem instead of applying patches. And I absolutely hope you or anyone here won't ever be abused by others.

But for now, farewell.

[–] Allero 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Not that I care of downvotes when I'm right.

Yet you don't seem to listen, instead going for labels and trying so so hard to make it personal in several threads at once.

I don't think this kind of conversation can remain productive.

[–] Allero 0 points 3 months ago (6 children)

Women are not tools - and I never said that. Women, as all people, may have to sacrifice this short-term benefit for the long-term effect and actually lasting safe environment - that's my point. In a world where people radicalize and suggest knee-jerk solutions, I want to step back to see if evidence is there to back them up.

I say that sometimes people make irrational decisions that hurts the bottom line for themselves and others, and game theory means sometimes we have to all sacrifice something to maintain a better position than we could achieve individually - in this case, a world where we don't have to isolate ourselves to be safe and live in fear of someone.

If allowing women to "protect themselves" by letting them choose male-free spaces is gonna cause the rise in male violence, this will undermine the very purpose of this initiative. And since individually every woman is still better off separated, this will perpetuate even further, even if collectively women lose big time.

I'm concerned about this particular risk. Should it be about men instead of women, I'd be same kind of concerned. This is not meant to be misogynistic (or misandric for that matter). This is rather collectivist, choosing a solution that could bring people together and let them actually solve the problem that requires both ends to solve. And a suggested initiative only makes this goal father away, proliferating the general issue that causes the concern in the first place.

Separating people based on inherent traits is never the solution, which we somehow understand in any case but this one.

[–] Allero 1 points 3 months ago (13 children)

Thanks for pointing it out. I will see what I can do to correct it.

Is it something about the way I put it, like if I decide for women how it would be better for them?

Because my real position here, outlined clearly from my point of view but maybe not from someone else's, is that we should better study the consequences of that approach to make a more informed decision.

One could come from a strictly individualistic approach, to allow and empower people to act as they see fit, but the moment we set examples of things already resolved, people start thinking otherwise.

I'm gonna get another hate wave for this comparison, but this is just illustrative example, so hear me out first: should we allow white people to make separate white-only spaces on the same planes? We can absolutely try and justify it by the same "giving agency" argument, all while pointing out people of color do more crimes and can be, on average, more "dangerous".

All of which would be complete bullshit that omits any nuance that the very segregation puts people in conditions that promote such behavior and there is nothing about being black or hispanic or whatever in itself that promotes it. So we should absolutely fight back against any such idea.

Similar themes here, except the conditions here are less material (in fact, men even have somewhat of an advantage here) and more purely social. Externally isolated communities often promote dangerous behaviors, and to combat that, we should avoid forming such communities by not alienating them by the arbitrary category of gender in the first place. Otherwise, we are gonna see communities similar to incels grow and get more dangerous.

I just suppose that the risk of alienating men and them getting more violent may outweigh the immediate benefit of increased plane safety, eventually turning against women themselves. But to prove or disprove that point, I'd love to see more numbers. Before that, I do not welcome radical solutions that are not informed by a solid body of evidence, as they often carry questionable consequences.

[–] Allero 5 points 3 months ago

Thanks for the update and fact check!

[–] Allero -3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I never defended sexual assault; I just said that:

If allowing women to avoid being seated next to men on flights reduces the chance of sexual assault from taking place

Is a big "if". In your original sentence, on the plane, yes, it might reduce the risk of assault. But life doesn't end outside the plane, and I wonder whether such restriction could just lead to increased risk of sexual assault elsewhere, due to a)frustration of the same men who didn't do it on the plane and can probably still do it in any other place; b)influence of such measures on how abusive men treat the status quo and resist it - thereby negating all the benefit.

Which is why, if you feel my take "sounds" like something, I ask to clarify first and attack later. This is not a ragebait dumpster, and people are generally acting in good faith around Lemmy.

[–] Allero -1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

My take is exactly that the suggested approach might not improve women's safety overall. The "betterment of men", as you put it, is the key ingredient to a sustainable solution on male sexual harassment and violence, and segregation is a patch that can come with unintended consequences that will undermine this process and directly hurt women.

We may not ignore the social and psychological consequences of such actions for men, as their mental wellbeing is directly related to the probability of committing assault, thereby again, directly affecting women.

I'm trying to make a point to counter the immediate knee-jerk approach, and call to collect evidence on the efficacy of such measures to promote women's safety. Any policy should be driven by what actually works, not what we feel of it.

I urge you to stop assuming bad faith in everyone you disagree with, and to clarify first. Lemmy is very much a people-driven platform, and absolute majority of people here are well-intentioned. Thereby, if another person shares a different opinion, they probably come from a position of care as much as you do, they just have a different consideration in mind.

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