[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

On a wheel, on a wizard, on a whale, Anna no, Anna no I don’t wanna be dead again.

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 32 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Honestly it’s so difficult to get done as it is that they don’t even need to outlaw. It’s virtually unobtainable for most women unless they already have “enough” kids, whatever that means to a specific doctor, or they travel to find a willing doctor.

It took me 8 years to get it done because I’ve never reproduced (childfree by choice). And I’m one of the easier stories. I got it done at 27, in 2015, and while some doctors are more willing now, most aren’t. Especially in conservative areas.

All they have to do is keep making doctors scared to offer proper reproductive care, make it risky and they stop going into that field. You don’t need to make it illegal, just impossible. Rich white people will still be able to choose, so they don’t care.

I had to deal with a whole bunch of people asking me hypothetical questions. What if you regret it? (what if I regret having them?), what about your future partner? (If they are right for me they also don’t want kids, and I don’t plan to get married anyway). What if you change your mind? (I will adopt if that happens. I don’t believe sharing my junk genetics is important, and the chances of issues are high anyway since I’m also broken, and there are plenty of not-infant kids who need homes if I get maternal, but kids under 5 aren’t my jam and probably never will be, and I’m probably too negligent to raise them right anyway). Ultimately they couldn’t argue with my logic but it took years of finding the right doctors getting the right consultations, etc.

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 77 points 3 months ago

Or the very first time you open the bag, the zip seal pulls away from the rest of the bag.

Or the seal doesn’t line up properly and can’t be zippered no matter what you do.

Or the seal is one of those cheap single layer ones that cross-threads and pops back open every time you think you’ve got it.

Or the zip opening doesn’t cover the whole bag, and you, moron you are, cut the top instead of the disturbing mouth hole they want you to use.

I end up clipping them half the time anyway.. good thing large packs of wood clothes pins are still commonly available at the dollar store :)

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 66 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

This would absolutely flag me for something. I tend to have flat delivery, low pitch, avoid eye contact, etc. and when combined with other metrics, could easily flag me as not being a happy enough camper.

I mean don’t get me wrong, I’m never going to be happy to be working, but if I showed up that day, I’m also in a good enough headspace to do my job… and if you want to fire me for that… for having stuff going on and not faking vocal patterns…

This is why I don’t want to work anymore. It’s gotten so invasive and fraught if you happen to be anything but a happy bubbly neurotypical fake. And that’s wildly stressful. I’m not a machine, and refuse to be treated like one. If that means I have to die in poverty, well, dump me in the woods, I guess.

This shit should never be legal.

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I know this is going to sound really dumb, but I want to help unionize my state, and I am aware of two heavily exploited and under-represented groups.

I am qualified to work in entry-mid level positions in both of these fields but.. I want to unionize them from the outside instead of dealing with the shit from the inside. I can’t work those places because they are pretty abusive and I have an exceptionally low tolerance for that crap at this point, plus I’m kinda very much a communist, and this whole model we have doesn’t work for me.

Instead, I want to form/expand an organization for at least one of them. The one I’m looking to focus on is lab workers, and if that works, go from there. What would I need to do for that to happen in Wisconsin? Is it even possible to form an external workers union? I know there’s some limits to public sector bargaining in Wisconsin, and while I don’t think that applies to private sector, I don’t know whether a private company with government contracts (which a lot of them have) would count as public.

Are there any resources for this sort of thing? Maybe national unions that would want to expand if there’s enough interest? I’m super serious about doing this, so I’m really soliciting information.

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 61 points 4 months ago

I don’t have friends and still got Covid…

I definitely did something wrong (it was “being employed”)

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 62 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

If something like this actually works as designed, I’d like to see companies start to offer it free to employees, in much the same way a lot of them pay for financial planning services as part of the bennies.

With the amount of data brokers can have on people, and the sheer number of brokers, I could see something like this being a valuable component of a good enterprise security team. Help prevent social engineering breaches.

It would also disrupt the data brokerage model, and that’s a win.

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 256 points 9 months ago

Am I the only one surprised there were even that many in the first place?

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 63 points 9 months ago

I just say “it’s personal, and I won’t be discussing it.” If they don’t want to hire me because of it, I don’t want to work there anyway.

It’s absolutely none of their business what I was doing, especially that I went into a deep depression after my mom died and my live-in ex cheated on me while I was caring for her, and then spent a couple years selling her non-sentimental possessions to live off. And I’m not willing to make up some bullshit to hide it either, it happened and I’m not ashamed of it, but I’m not sharing it with interviewers. Meh meh.

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 68 points 9 months ago

You joke, but really, it probably is exactly that. They want desperate people who won’t complain about being treated poorly.

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 99 points 10 months ago

Even the used furniture market is obscene.

Used flat pack shit that lasts maybe 10 years in optimal conditions goes used for only half the price, bad lean and all.

Anything solid wood you might as well buy new, cuz it’s nearly the same price, like damn.

I now go to habitat for humanity restore locations or goodwill, because they -can’t afford to charge a lot for big stuff- because they don’t have the space to store it. It’s not great stuff, but refurbishable.

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/solarpunk@slrpnk.net

I checked for posts about this and didn’t see any. Hopefully the cross post works properly.

Archive links: https://ghostarchive.org/archive/hKYX9

https://archive.ph/qleLE

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 85 points 10 months ago

If Donald Trump goes to prison, he would likely go to a federal prison. Conjugal visits are not a federal right, so Trump would not enjoy conjugal visits with Melania.

She wouldn’t enjoy them either.

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I went digging through settings (always do) and couldn’t find an option to show the instance of commenters.

It’s very helpful to me to have that information. The app I was using, memmy, had it, and I really like the context it provides for users of niche instances, but memmy doesn’t support direct messages and doesn’t handle images well, so it was time for a change. (Of literally all available iOS apps and the couple PWAs I tested, Thunder seems to handle hexbear/other inline images best at the moment - well done!)

Is there a way to enable that? If not, I’d like to request it 😁

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Contact management (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
submitted 10 months ago by ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/foss@beehaw.org

I am looking for a contact manager to replace a google account or iCloud account.

I am currently on iOS (and actively dislike it after being on android since forever) and looking to increase my privacy by cutting ties with my google accounts.

A Google account presently manages my contacts, and I do not want iOS to take over this job, I’d rather manage them myself.

I tried searching for FOSS contact managers but all I found was client relation software which isn’t what I want at all…. I don’t think.. I just want my phone numbers and names saved for easy personal use.

Is there anything good for managing a personal phone book?

[-] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 60 points 10 months ago

Good, but it kinda ticks me off the he gets to serve this sentence at the same time he’s seeing a 3-year for the civil rights conviction.. like rather than 8 years, it maxes out at 5, and that’s some bullshit.

All four former police officers involved in the incident were convicted on federal civil rights charges, in addition to state murder charges for Mr Chauvin. Ex-officers Thomas Lane and J Alexander Kueng pleaded guilty to aiding and abetting second-degree manslaughter. Thao, who was sentenced to three and a half years over his civil rights conviction, will serve the 57 months at the same time.

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I was using memmy because it used the default option for voting breakdown to show up and downvotes separately.

I would like to see all apps add a toggle for those of us who want a granular breakdown on voting (the same suggestion has been made to memmy and will be made to any others I try which don’t have it, and I’m on android as well!), for our mental health or for whatever other reason (for me the total vote count up/down is a mental health feature, and why I’m drawn to the fediverse. I want to know my overall reach and how many agreed, disagreed, and, inadvertently, the vote to reply ratio (which tells you a lot about how strongly someone feels about their agreement or dissent). I don’t want that hidden behind an aggregate number when it exists there as data already that need to be suppressed.

I have downloaded and installed your app and have found it does not have this, so I would like to request it. It can be a toggle for those who want to know aggregate data, but it is my opinion that the default splitting of votes into up and down counts should be preserved as the default for apps as well, largely for the reasons above but also to give Lemmy a different feel from Reddit/other SM. We want this place to be different, and our UX choices matter in how that ends up working. If we want to maintain a more collaborative environment, the detailed counts do matter.

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I was using memmy because it used the default option for voting to show both up and downvotes separately.

I would like to see all apps add a toggle for those of us who want a granular breakdown on voting (the same suggestion has been made to memmy and will be made to any others I try which don’t have it, and I’m on android as well!), for our mental health or for whatever other reason (for me the total vote count up/down is a mental health feature, and why I’m drawn to the fediverse. I want to know my overall reach and how many agreed, disagreed, and, inadvertently, the vote to reply ratio (which tells you a lot about how strongly someone feels about their agreement or dissent). I don’t want that hidden behind an aggregate number when it exists there as data already that need to be suppressed.

I have downloaded and installed your app and have found it does not have this, so I would like to request it. It can be a toggle for those who want to know aggregate data, but it is my opinion that the default splitting of votes into up and down counts should be preserved as the default for apps as well, largely for the reasons above but also to give Lemmy a different feel from Reddit/other SM. We want this place to be different, and our UX choices matter in how that ends up working. If we want to maintain a more collaborative environment, the detailed counts do matter.

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submitted 11 months ago by ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/cat@lemmy.world

She’s one of a pair, but easier to photograph 😻

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