Blazingtransfem98

joined 9 months ago

You do have a point, when I said it's necessary I meant from my situation where cis passing is extremely important due to risk of violence and my fear of violence, my dysphoria is a huge part but fear of being beaten for not passing is also very big. It's happened before my picrew doesn't have an eyepatch for style, I was attacked for being trans and it left me permanently blind in my left eye, and I wear an eyepatch to cover up my non-functional left eye. I know that the pressure to cis pass isn't healthy and that in an ideal world it would only be about alleviating my dysphoria. It really sucks that I have to be afraid to speak in public because someone could clock me and get violent. I don't mean to put people in difficult situations I was just scared and wanted to know in the moment if my voice sounded alright or if I was at risk of being clocked.

I know that VFS isn't a magic bullet and I do know that training is still worthwhile, it has had an effect, it just isn't enough on its own to make me sound not masculine. Which is why I've said I need it in order to be able to pass.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

knowing the person is enough to change your perception of their voice

Maybe but honestly that's not good enough, it's paramount that I pass without being clocked, sounding fem to people I know and who like me is nice but it's not enough. It won't prevent me from ending up dead in an alley because some Neonazi heard me talking and instantly clocked me.

I don't have the luxury of being openly trans and visibly queer, not without getting hurt, possibly killed.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Doesn't Lemmy have RSS feeds? They just could follow this community's feed in their Feed reader like all their other news, or use a Mastodon RSS bot if they so badly need it on Mastodon.

Maybe put the feed Link in the sidebar so people know they can follow it for updates here, the RSS button on Lemmy is so small many people won't notice it.

https://discuss.online/feeds/c/announcements.xml?sort=New

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 3 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Microblog platforms are going the way of the dodo anyway. Community centered platforms like Reddit and Lemmy are the future.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

At this point I'd take the risk, I can't stand my voice so much that even if there was a risk of it making me mute I'd take it even for even a slim chance to just sound like a normal cis girl.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hey there girl it's alright, things will be okay. It's natural not to like the idea at first but I'll give you some advice. You're trans whether you like it or not, things will go easier if you accept it sooner rather than later and start doing things to affirm your identity and make yourself comfortable, even little things.

I resisted for a very long time. I only transitioned on DIY hormones a few years ago, and before that there were many many signs but I ignored or resisted them like an idiot. I think I used to believe one could choose to be trans 🤦‍♀️. Obviously that didn't work and I'm trans, as much as it's brought me hardship and suffering. I am glad though that I did come out eventually and began the journey of transitioning, a lot of the stress, depression, and dysphoria has gotten better because of it. I hope someday I'll be able to fully transition (voice surgery and bottom surgery) but at this point I'm not there yet, and probably won't be for a while since surgeries are expensive.

K have fun with your AI brain rot.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 22 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I think these people were already crazy if they're willing to let a machine shovel garbage into their mouths blindly. Fucking mindless zombies eating up whatever is big and trendy.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 2 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Those bootlickers will believe anything, I bet you could convince them water was dangerous if you made them think the DEA said it.

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Is anyone surprised? Mainstream social media is a fascist mouthpiece. Always has been.

 

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online to c/egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

Christmas without HRT is just Cis-mas

 

Some things have a silver lining I guess.

 

Was banned from !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone for calling out a Mod's misuse of the Egg prime directive to criticize trans people for helping out trans women in denial of their trans-ness. They're denying the validity of signs of being transgender, what the actual fuck, this shit is not okay. Then after banning me that dipshit locks the post so no one else can reply on it. How is this not power-tripping?

Modlog history for my account: https://discuss.online/modlog?userId=11993717

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