Holy fuck how do I KEEP forgetting that no matter how confident I am that what I have to say will resonate, it is NEVER worth posting on
I need to repeat a mantra to myself or something: No matter how reasonable you are, no matter what you have to say, they WILL miss your point and drag you down for it.
My dad is going through dialysis and it's brutal, especially since it seems like a transplant is not an option for him. I'm sorry for you, your partner and the rest of your family.
Just try to tell yourself that giving whatever you can counts for twice as much when you're this weighted down. That's what I do for myself, anyway. It at least helps suppress guilty thoughts a little.