It was merely the people who decided they wanted to choose for themselves which doors they would enter, and not be told by an admin they couldn’t enter certain doors.
I don’t like being told which parts of the internet I’m not intelligent enough to decide for myself about how I feel.
and if I see a community on any of them I don’t like, then it’s MY job to block it from my view, not an admins.
I can't see a sensible way to read your comments as anything but critical of admins who choose not to federate with all instances.
My so-called vitriol is because I appreciate that by running an instance, admins are providing a service to me while bearing the brunt of the financial and legal responsibilities that go with that. If I don't like how they run it, it's incumbent on me to get out of their house and move into my own rather than complaining.
My 5 year old believes that unicorns exist, they are just really good at hiding in the forest. I'm not going to tell them that it's not true.
The best I've been able to come up with is saying some people believe in god, some people don't. Some people believe in ghosts, some people don't. Everyone believes in different things, we can let them believe that without believing it ourselves.