LadyAutumn

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[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago

I do think on some level piracy is more ethical than paying her money, but I still see consuming her work in any form as unethical. I think everyone has an internal line beyond which they will no longer consume or engage with art created by someone. Like child abusers tends to be a major one, or sexual assaulters or murderers. Not that these are hard lines that immediately disqualify any art from consumption, but I think most would agree that consuming art knowingly made by people who do those things is wrong and unethical. There's exceptions as always, loads of famous people running around who do those things who's art people love. But still I think that its hard to defend that, and that most people have a line somewhere.

By continuing to consume her work you are indirectly stating that she hasn't done anything to cross that line for you. (Not you specifically, the proverbial you) I don't think it's impossible to let go of content created by harmful people, or that anyone categorically can never do that. I think to suggest that is kind of ridiculous. Like I doubt many people would seriously defend listening to and enjoying Diddy's music.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago

She did later on, claiming that Hermione "could have been black" and that "she never specified her race". As though being black was so inconsequential that it would go entirely unmentioned through 7 books (when other black characters absolutely did have their race mentioned).

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Its not a matter of separating it from her. She isnt dead, shes still alive and consuming her work is kind of a passive endorsement. You know, sure she might be the figurehead of a movement that literally rejects transgender people from society, but thats not enough to give me pause in reading and enjoying her content.

Do you think listening to Chris Brown is cool? What about Diddy? You know separating art from the artist and what not. Consuming art is apparently an entirely neutral activity with no real world implications or consequences, so surely being like "sure Diddy is a serial sexual abuser, but I just adore his music. I'm capable of separating art from the artist" is also entirely valid in your view.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 month ago (30 children)

Or just don't. Accept that it was created by the figurehead of a widespread bigoted movement and move on. I read the series over 10 times. Read the 5th 6th and 7th books on release dates when I was a child. I discovered aspects of my identity through the Fandom. It far and away is the series I read as a kid that had the largest impact on me... well there were others that were close but still.

Haven't touched any of it in half a decade. I never will again either. I'm not invested in the creations of people who cause harm to me and those I love. I have no interest in anything produced by people who would bring mass violent harm against my community. I accept the influence it had on me but I let go of it and moved on. I dont believe that anyone is incapable of that, genuinely. There are other better things out there that weren't made by fascists.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

She was already very conservative during her upbringing. Her 'feminism' amounted to performative success for affluent women under capitalism. She has never been a progressive. She retconned her characters to minorities while doing literally no work to write the characters as minorities with the experiences of minorities. Feminism to her is an aesthetic.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You have wildly misunderstood what TERFs are. They're buddies with anti-abortion activists. Politically they are aligned in interests with misogynists. They believe that gender is innate and unchangeable, which is the same thing that misogynists think. They believe that women are and will always be subjugated by men because men are biologically inclined towards rape and are categorically stronger than every single woman. They dont actually seek to change this in any material way. They just dont want to have to be around people they consider disgusting. They want to be upheld by white men the way they were in the 40s. There's a reason TERFs skew middle class and white.

Fun fact that during the build up to world war 2 a mass exodus of former suffragettes to the side of fascism took place in Britain. Even though fascists wanted to take their right to vote away again. The fascists upheld white British women as the pinnacle of femininity, and upheld them as an ideal in their state of subjugation. This presented a position of privilege over other women. It afforded them status and protection that being a political radical did not.

Not necessarily directly related to TERFs, just wanted to point out that if incentives exist to become a misogynist then some women will take the incentive.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I also experienced extreme bottom dysphoria. It was completely disruptive my whole life. It definitely got worse the longer I was out as trans. There were so many things I wanted to do that I didnt feel like I could. I'm very inclined towards feminine clothes and presentation and I pretty much never could wear anything explicitly fem. I always wore baggy clothes, hoodies and jeans in the middle of summer kinda vibe. It was awful genuinely I hated my body and wanted no one to ever see me. I didnt swim for over a decade. I felt out of place among other women, I felt repulsed with intimacy and avoided it as much as possible. I got misgendered a lot and just sort of accepted it. I was very unhappy most of the time.

I dont have any easy answers. It nearly killed me. I coped badly, to make a long story short. I waited a long time for surgery and getting it saved my life. Its been over 2 years now. I'm almost an entirely different person. Its hard to really summarize all the changes but I actually like who I am today. I love my body in spite of its flaws and I actually feel free to be myself, something I never did before. I'm better adjusted emotionally and much better at managing my mental health. I'm not entirely free of dysphoria now, but bottom dysphoria was far and away the worst for me.

The next 6 months before your surgery date will feel like the longest thing ever and also retrospectively like the blink of an eye. A light at the end of the tunnel exists. I'm very excited for you to get there. Be patient with yourself and focus on getting through each day.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 1 month ago (3 children)

It's literally robbery. They're legal thieves. They collect until you're dead, and they sure as hell aren't lifting a finger to keep you alive.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 month ago

Its functionally legal to discriminate against gay people in America now. I see this as testing the waters more than anything.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What a... grating comment.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago

He knows what we say it means, but he is a eugenicist and believes that white people are biologically superior. He co-opts our language because it fuels a media cycle. The fascists love when he co-opts our language. Its all games of confusion and misdirection and redefinement.

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