Thanks shades, didn't click about that. Really appreciate you pointing it out.
You're welcome we got you
Absolutely
Hey Z! I know you're not being malicious, but you could be misread as advocating violence. I can't edit comments so I've deleted it.
Yes that's true. Lower chance of being attacked or fetishised. Sad but true
Yep the control is a massive part of the abuse, they want a captive. You deserved better
Anytime 😊
Ugh yeah, when I messaged a trans woman online dating shed usually heavily stress she was trans because she was so used to women bailing. It's so disappointing.
Yay! Glad you're here lemmy daddy 😊
These are really valid questions! I'm a fiercely pro dad woman, and I'll try to answer. IME people's relationship with their dad tends to be different to their mom, they're two different roles and two different people. IME people tend to go to dad for practical stuff (financial advice, DIY, moving things etc) and mom for home based practical and lengthy emotional discussions. Dad will also do emotional stuff, but often different style eg pep talks. For protection stuff, IME people go to dad.
Yes I love and miss my dad very much. A good person accepts mistakes, no matter what their role. And you can always go to a good parent cos they're always safe.
I'm sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve. Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.
Thanks mate I re edited my comment to put it all back incase it's helpful. And absolutely, gender can make a big difference to how a child is treated. It is kinda good that you don't know what you've missed. I get what you mean about childhood still haunting you, it's really hard to unlearn things we learned back then. Therapy can really help, it can change how we think... it's about self development not things being wrong with us