Septimaeus
Important caveats:
(1) Measure expectations
To know oneself is a personal journey one must travel themselves. You can accompany them to a nearby milestone and/or encourage them to find the next, but ultimately you can’t fight their intellectual battles on their behalf. Expecting to will lead only to frustration.
(2) Be forewarned
Note that even in the best case, proceeding will almost certainly alter the dynamics of your relationship, and perhaps end it altogether.
(3) Consider the safest approach
If you’re interested in maintaining the relationship, it would be far better if they were supported in this long journey by a professional (a cognitive behavioral therapist / social worker) rather than a friend/peer. This is especially true for anything so extensive as what you’re describing.
With these caveats carefully considered…
I have found that most people are receptive to a method of periodic open-ended questioning, a common technique of active listening.
I don’t mean confrontational interrogation or leading questions (to which there are “correct” answers). I mean precisely the kinds of unassuming questions someone with more developed introspection might ask themselves internally. Questions of clarification or contemplation, for example, and general curiosity regarding others’ motivations, as well as one’s own.
This method, used carefully, seems to work by temporarily donating perspective to someone, via simple demonstration, which aids them in cultivating their own.
Over time, you may find that they begin to anticipate your questions (perhaps with friendly exasperation) which is the first sign that it’s working.
Best of luck.
Oh, and in case you’re looking for recommendations, my current daily driver is Blair’s “Ultra Death.”
To set expectations, Tobasco (a common North American vinegar-based chili sauce) has a heat rating of 7,000 scovilles, whereas Ultra Death generally measures over 1 million.
If you like heat, extracts are a cost-effective step up, since each bottle lasts longer. At first anyway.
IME this sort of error is often related to the aggregation of traffic through a single IP address. (Commonly: VPNs, public WiFi hotspots, large commercial networks, and so forth.)
The safest workaround is to temporarily change your server location (if using a VPN, which is advisable).
Another easy solution is a different connection, such as switching to mobile data (less safe due to ISP fingerprinting).
Also, since this error is often generated by simple time-based access quotas (throttling), you can confirm the root cause by refreshing once the next hour or day ticks over. (If due to throttling, the error will suddenly disappear.)
Great idea! Many of them offer a nice color palette too. I’ll try it.
Lol you’re not alone. I think someone commented something similar last night. And you’d have plausible deniability too, since the blue is “accidentally” allowed to show between the white and red stripes.
Focus on maximizing empty horizontal surface space.
Explanation
Have you ever noticed that restaurants and bars often decorate their walls with stuff that would easily be considered clutter on the floor?
Apparently “clutter” is a highly relative descriptor, and the visual-spatial bias behind it privileges horizontal surface space.
You can leverage that knowledge to quickly de-clutter spaces without investing in lots of new storage furniture and organization systems.
It’s by far the cheapest trick I know.
How (basic)
Move and reorient items from horizontal surfaces to vertical ones.
Horizontal surfaces include table tops, floors, chair seats, and so forth.
Vertical surfaces are everything else: shelves, hanging storage, stackable cubes, upright bins, baskets that can sit on top of cabinets, boxes that slide under beds, wall-mounted anything, shelving beneath any horizontal surface, any storage above eye level, etc.
Even just stacking things can make a space look less cluttered.
How (advanced)
Once you start getting creative with this concept, you can build it into the planning of your living space.
For example, you might figure out what stuff can live in wall-mounted dispensers instead of occupying the space of a counter/vanity/floor.
Similarly, you might find visually appealing ways to store “clutter” out in the open, such as a ceiling-mounted pot rack or a stainless steel prep table used as kitchen island storage.
One of my favorite side-effects of this technique is that once you’ve minimized the footprint of items lying on horizontal surfaces, cleaning becomes a snap.
For example, fewer obstructions on the floor lets you use cheap sweeper bots on a schedule that keep interior dust levels low.
Likewise, wiping off counter tops and bathroom vanities takes mere seconds when you don’t have to move anything.
ETA: tldr — “picking up,” interpreted literally, is an endlessly useful principle of housekeeping.
Most of the gastrointestinal distress from capsaicin is the result of poison countermeasures triggered by contact pain signals.
But capsaicin is telling your cells a lie which fewer believe each re-telling, so it requires increasingly ridiculous doses to trigger those internal signals.
If you eat spicy food regularly, you likely won’t get any internal signals again until you graduate to a different category of spiciness, such as extracts.
Hot sauce nerds consider extracts cheating, since you can achieve heat that’s many orders of magnitude above what the hottest pepper hybrids can produce, but do what you must to feel alive.
You’re right, but I wouldn’t guess the intern they tasked with graphics design has ever looked too closely.
Lol in most of the places I grew up you could beckon cats with “kssksskss” but visiting Americans would often use “psspsspss” which made children giggle because it’s the sound locals used to encourage infants to pee.
Both worked though. I think it’s the high pitch sound cats are attuned to for hunting. Just whispering “hey” tends to work, and makes observers think cats understand you.
Yeah, actual Russian collusion aside, anyone who thinks the horizontal stripes in that stylistic divider are supposed to be Russian flags is probably a prime target for ragebait like this.
And if this describes you, consider how the divider is reminiscent of the ribbon used to adorn many official medals. Has the US been secretly promoting the modern Russian flag for hundreds of years? Probably not.
The turnout Saturday was encouraging, at least, though I haven’t yet seen the over-under on flippable seats that will be up for reelection.