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How do I support my queer Muslim friend

I hope this alright for me to post in here, but I am currently about to enter my final year of uni and have become good mates with a guy who came out to me as gay last year.

He is from a Muslim family and is absolutely terrified of what his sexuality could mean for him and his family.

He’s opened up to me about being scared of uni being the last year he has to actually be himself before he has to go back to living a lie. I am well aware that he is really stuck between a rock and a hard place, but I have no idea what I can say to make this better.

I have made it known that my door is always open to him, even at short notice, but I don’t know what else I can say or do to help. Any thoughts would be really appreciated.

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Valentine’s day games to play?

TLDR: What are some games i can play for valentine’s day to lift my spirits towards love?

It’s been a few months since I broke up with my BF of 5 years and i’ve really retreated into my games.

It was mutual, but still hurts.

I've been playing a ton of Cyberpunk 2077 and Marvel Rivals when i’m not workin but id really like some other suggestions.

I’ve been getting out and being with friends but gaming has also been my safe space.

I’d really like some games that i can enjoy whether they’re indie or big AAA stuff.

I used to love valentine’s day but now im dreading todayday just being me solo playing the same stuff.

If anyone has any games that lifted their spirits towards love i’d love to hear them.

Is this sad?

The way my soul left my body when i saw this...only to find out it was Al generated.

😭😭

We need this!!!!!!!

I was reading up on male advocacy and came across instances of epistemic violence.

The term was originally created by a certain group. What I came across was how the r*pe of men by women in the US is not actually legally considered as r*pe and instead has to be worded as ''mtp'', because US law has made it such that r*pe automatically entails that the man was the perpetrator.

Pro-male advocates people say this is due to legal changes i.e. epistemic violence led by certain groups.

Men don't even know they are being abused and how they are, in many other ways, because they lack the terminology or words to even discuss what they are experiencing.

I think the concept of epistemic violence applies perfectly for LGBT muslims.

We don't even know we're being abused because the epistemology/knowledge of these things has been controlled by oppressive patriarchial heteronormative regimes that seek to meet their own agendas.

It's being framed as ''word of god'' and ''divine justice'' to gaslight and invalidate our experiences in a similar manner, though it uses the appeal to a greater authority to shut counter-arguments down.

I don't know much about epistemic violence myself yet, much less how this would apply to LGBT muslims, but I'm interested in hearing what the community thinks of this.

I'd appreciate any detailed responses on it.

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Write, call & urge others to tell congress to stop HR 22 or the SAVE act

https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/house-bill/8281

https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/politics/elections/2025/02/12/what-is-the-save-act/78386676007/

If passed it will prevent anyone who has ever changed their name from registering to vote.

That includes their last name if they were married or divorced. Or their first name for gender or any other reason.

It also bans mail in voting, online voter registration.

It criminalizes helping people register to vote & mandates massive voter purges disproportionately targeting women & people of color - so once their registration has been purged it could be impossible for hundreds millions of americans to get registered again.

It is urgent because- it is the republicans in congress top priority to get this voter suppression bill passed.

If you want to call your local representatives and they’re heavily Republican, it helps to lean into how this will affect married women and military personnel overseas.

It’s an unfortunate truth that if you call saying you’re worried about trans people or immigrants, they will not listen.

Explain how this puts a heavy burden on married women to pay for an expensive passport with their new name, and how military personnel fighting for our country will have their rights stripped from them.

Essentially, roleplay as a Republican constituent and think about what they might care about.

Even if they don’t care about women, they pretend to care about military personnel.

Even when they’re not doing it/projecting, they’ll still support an environment for it.

I mean, look at like how in the 90s-00s, you see teens getting sexualized 24/7, but having a consensual same-sex relationship in media crosses the line.

Look at all those drama films and subplots that romanticize adults grooming teenagers.

Or for another thing, look at how Rowling in the Harry Potter series acts like rape and sexual assault are harmless jokes, even as far as painting Merope as an innocent victim.

Not to mention, even when Trump is exposed for the inappropriate behavior and allegations, people still voted for him, and it gets gross and disturbing when you realize people find him relatable…

Even when you take out the gender double standard, at the end of the day a poor kid is getting molested and raped by an older predator, whether it be a girl getting picked up by a older creepy dude or a “lucky” boy getting it from a creepy older woman.

And before you bring up the 70's French excuse (they saw them as the same thing), just remember that they’ll still immediately go to pedophilia first.