'Eww, what is this pool of liquid on top of this thing? How did it even get here? Oh, its just blood; that makes more sense. Guess I need to stop the bleeding"
WalrusDragonOnABike
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Breaking into buildings by triggering their REX-sensors?
What are the top contenders for favorite color?
Congrats on not feeling like a husk!
So, is it like specifically about womens spaces, or about the perhaps unneccessary gendering of spaces that gives you bad/weird feelings? Perhaps both?
I thought it was the former pre-accel, but now I think it’s actually both. I stress out a lot if I have to use a bathroom in a public place, I will just hold it until it’s painful, especially if other people are in there. Now that I’m more conscious that neither label really applies to me, I just want non-gendered bathrooms lol.
More non-gendered spaces would be rad. Only time I ended up in an explicitly women's space (outside of small childhood), was when I had accidentally gotten on the bus in highschool when it was women's turn to change. I didn't even notice the mistake... subconscious brain didn't think changing outerwear needed to be gendered nor did I notice that everyone else on the bus were girls. By the time someone pointed out I was there, it was too late to leave, so I just got an opaque bag over my head until they were done. I felt bad being there, but not because I thought I was out of place (even though I had no clue I was trans at the time), but because of the assumption that others would perceive me as a threat, which I thought fair given how a lot of guys sexually objectify girls.
Thats not to say it alienates you entirely from reproductive or perpetuative labour tho, at least, i dont think?
Agreed. There's a lot more to it than that and QPRs exist. People still have to survive even if they don't have children. And lots of people help with things like childcare even if its not their offspring.
You aren't allowed to iron them I don't think. Queer culture apparently dictates all pride flags must have clear fold lines. Not sure all flags hung by queer people must follow this standard though or if they're allowed to iron non-GSRM flags. Also not sure if non-queer allies hanging flags have to follow queer flag code or if they must iron to distinguish themselves?
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To me ig, woman is a label that is both applied to me by the outside world and that I apply to myself. Perhaps its cause I really like being femme, and the labour of the woman-class (under our gender system) is labour I do most often. I guess to me its not an issue of being a woman, but rather an issue of performing womanhood coupled with being seen as a woman. To be clear, the performance is not in a “person performing” kind of a way, but rather that the performance makes the person. And by “being seen”, i perhaps could say it better as being recognized in/for your labour.
One thing that stood out to me from r/agender was that people there overwelmingly identified as ace if I'm not mistaken. I always wondered if that was a side-effect of r/agender being associated with the aro/ace-subreddits moreso than trans subreddits (partly just because of AAA(A...) battery jokes) or if there was an actually connection between between being ace and agender. Given how much autism overlaps with both of those groups further compounds the issue.
I didn't like the idea that sexual orientation and gender were somehow linked mostly because how transphobes/homophobes tend to say really stupid things relating the two. But like, it makes sense that if you are aroace (assuming you don't plan to have children), you might feel more alienated from the whole reproductive labor system and therefore gender as a whole? Being aro and/or ace is neither a sufficient nor a necessary condition for being agender, but perhaps it pushes people quite a bit that way?
I don't currently have any plans to change my masc name (maybe change the spelling by a single letter or two, but it would have no effect on pronunciation). I don't care for my name, but no other name appeals to me. Also, my name was chosen to rhyme with my mom's name, so I imagine its important to her (she's not my birth parent and had lost custody of a child to a birthparent once before). The letter changes would just make my name more similar to my mom's without just taking her name (which I don't want to do).
Meeting other people with my name when I was an egg often made me feel uncomfortable because all the other people with my name seemed a lot more masc I think? Also had a fun experience with a classmate whom we never told each other our names despite sitting together every class... so like I guess overall I consider it a negative, but any other name feels weirder.
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I had a good time doing that with watching someone play Doki Doki Literature Club for the first time.
I try to overcompensate for difficulty reading people to the point that I can end up reading too much into innocuous details of how someone said something or their expressions or phrasing, but sometimes pick up on a detail about someone that a group of NT people all miss
My ability to read people can vary. In terms of directions people are going (whether on foot, bike, or car) is really good imo. When i drive, I subconsciously do a lot of prediction, so even if I'm spacing out, I'll do things like switch lanes to let people over who haven't indicated they're doing it, be confused why I suddenly switched lanes, and then figure out what my subconscious was doing.
With my brother and my cousin, I often can tell what they're going to say before they really said anything or can translate something like a specific laugh at a price into an accurate quantitative guess of what the price was. Idk how well I can reading emotions that well for them though? And for most other people, I don't think I'm good at reading in either context.
I hate when I try to remember my master password without typing it and panic that I've forgotten my password. But when I got to type it, muscle memory is still there so no problem.
Usually 4%/x25 has been considered the rule-of-thumb (and that's based on a study that considered dying broke okay; not based on capital preservation). x20 would usually be considered fairly aggressive (although that depends if you are including other things like SS benefits if you are in the US).
Given the super-high CAPE ratio currently, even 4% would be be aggressive if you want capital preservation. Something like 3%/x33 would be more geared towards that.