mjsaber

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[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 13 hours ago

Weird, that's also the only thing my Politic Science degree has ever gotten me!

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago

I don't really have any advice or anything, but I hope you can find some reason to keep going. It sucks feeling alone, even more so when you're with other people.

Transitioning fucking sucks. Even if you have good results, it's a mess to deal with, physically and socially, and those difficulties make it mentally taxing as well. Like a lot of social media, we tend to only see the really exceptional cases, and not the reality a lot of us will live with.

I wish I had something to say that could take your pain away, but I don't. At some point, we all have to find a reason to keep going for ourselves. For me, it's my cat. It's nothing, in the grand scheme of things, but I'm all he has, and that's enough to keep me going. At least for today.

Keep reaching out. Keep trying. In the end, that's all we can really do.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 weeks ago

My cat is a tabby and does this exact thing with his paw. Feels like love.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I'm a nurse. Does that count as "blue collar"? Because I absolutely need to shower after 12 hours in the hospital.

 

Not sure if this is the place to post, but I've moved a lot recently and there aren't really any queer folks where I live. I'm looking for some kind of discord or something to chat and vent and just feel a little less alone.

I'm pretty old and I've "completed" my transition, and I'm always happy to share my experiences or knowledge if people are interested.

And apologies if this isn't the right spot for this post.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 56 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This is what I don't get. I'm a nurse, and since I (ostensibly) have people's lives in my hand, we are checked and double-checked, have to do continual education, and literally everything we do needs to be documented and audited.

And our goal is always to prevent harm to the patient. Why do people who can legally end someone's life not have the same, or much more strict, standards (I'm asking this rhetorically, I don't really want an answer).

It seems like adapting medical licensing and reporting requirements would help get us on the right track, or at the very least help hold police accountable.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The Amazon series is fan fiction. This is part of the background story Tolkien wrote.

I'm not really interested in either, as they are both soulless capitalist cash grabs, but I think this has the possibility of being a decent (although completely unnecessary) film .

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 months ago

Just heard Plaineclothes Man for the first time last week. I love it when I find new music that really speaks to me, there's so much good stuff out there right now.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 7 months ago

The job was to help develop the program and department, at least that's how they sold it to me. I was specifically told management is receptive to input from my position, and it was well within my purview to consider these issues. And, given that I don't think ever worked a full 40 hour week, I wouldn't say I did anything "double time".

I did give them a reasons to get rid of me, in that I showed there wasn't actually enough clinical level work for a nurse at this position, at least with how they structured it

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Doubly so, because my nursing certification is an associate level. Everywhere I looked requires a Bachelors.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 7 months ago

I don't think it helps the manager I reported to doesn't work with trans patients, and I only saw her when I needed something (like an IT request). Definitely put her subconscious interpretation of me as "someone needy".

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 7 months ago

Have an appointment tomorrow. Don't know if it constitutes legal discrimination, but I'm almost tempted to bring it even if it's not a slam dunk. They care so much about reputation a lawsuit would hurt them more than I ever could.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 7 months ago

Thank you. Already had a meeting scheduled with a lawyer tomorrow.

I just wanted to do some good. I didn't even get a chance to pass off my patients.

 

Moved up to the "Big City" in October. Today I was fired by a woman with a smile on her face.

My biggest complaints were being isolated from my peers, not having enough work to do, and not receiving feedback on my work performance directly.

I was accused of working outside of scope, not being able to separate my personal feelings from work, and not responding to doctors in a timely fashion. No specific or documented instances of any of these accusations were provided to me.

So now I'm alone, in a way more expensive city, with about the same amount it cost to move here left in the bank.

I think I'm done with healthcare. As a trans person, working inside of it is fucking awful, especially in large hospital organizations. I don't think it helps I graduated from nursing school in 2020.

What now? This was my dream job, at an organization (I thought) had their shit together. It was a nightmare on the inside - no support, no community. Call staff couldn't "handle" trans patients, so we have to call a separate line that might have someone call you back.

I came up with so many ideas, ways to improve, best practices we aren't following. Patients getting dead named and misgendered in charts, at the pharmacy, to their face. Asleep in the OR during surgery.

I've never been more confused about a job ending. I literally said I would do anything, work overtime, adapt my style, learn 6 different specialties, anything I could to help.

They never even listened to me. Why did they bring me all this way just to ignore me?

The worst part, I think, is that I don't know if I will ever really trust another human the same way. I thought this was a safe place where I could talk openly about what was deficient, and how to alleviate that. But I did that, and they didn't want to hear it, and now I'm on my own again.

I really thought we could build something truly special. I guess I'm just disappointed I'll never get a chance to see what that could have been.

 

Come correct or don't cum at all.

 

I'd say about 100% of my woes could be solved by covering me in a creamy, white sauce.

 

I just got my dream job helping run a trans healthcare program, and I'm looking for input from the community on on what would make you feel more comfortable or engaged with your medical provider. We provide everything from HRT to surgery to non-trans medical care. My goal is to have the happiest, healthiest patients in the country!

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