I would not say "lazy".
There are a lot of bold promises in Unreal Engine 5 advertisements, that get taken up by publishers and producers - and then end up in the game budgets...
And then, near the end of the project, when it turns out that performance isn't good because the advertisement promises have been a bit too bold, there is no money for optimization left...
While I am not aware of any way to run custom software on the Steam Deck while it is on standby, you can drastically reduce the power drain if you shut it down fully instead of leaving it on standby. You can either use the "Power" menu after pressing the steam key, or long-press the power button to get the option to do so.