thoughtful_poster

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[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

it's more like.. the issue is because of the nature of the visa she would be dependent on someone else (probably me) to get permanent residency by living together a year. also she's my ex. so there'd be a really fucked power dynamic. we could probably get a really big apartment with lots of rooms

[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (8 children)

hi hello

cw electionmy friend lives in long island, she is trans, latina, and disabled. she has guaranteed money, enough to live on in most cities except those like nyc and San Francisco, because of a birth injury. she's extremely scared of this new trump government and project 2025. she's also adhd and has trouble making decisions. should i encourage her to move away from America? what should I say to her? I'm not sure how dangerous it will be for her but she already hates long island. she either wants to move to montreal, where I and some friends live, or Spain where she has a cousin and aunt that she doesn't know too well. montreal would come with the issue of getting a visa but we could figure a way. she puts a lot of trust in me and I don't want to encourage her to move here for selfish reasons (i want my friends to live near me). thank u in advance

someone reply to my reply in this chain please and thank you

[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

i think there's some really great people there that would be impossible to meet otherwise there's just a lot of not amazing people too.. personally i'm going to keep doing it because i have no problems setting boundaries. it's a shame he only wanted s*x

[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (16 children)

>guy adds me from 4chan
>my post said no sex
>he keeps trying to take me on a date
>we have a rly good conversation anyway, he's well read
>eventually he says something that gets me flustered while im high
>tell him the next morning i just got out of a traumatic breakup and needed time to grow on my own, so not to expect anything to happen for a while
>he doesn't respond for a week
>just get "hi" a week later at 2am
>respond the next morning
>1 day later, now, he still hasn't replied
im unironically too poorly socialised to understand this behaviour. it sucks bcus tbh i spent all week half fantasising about spending my life together (sorry for posting cringe). can someone tell me what this means please