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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/brittcity on 2023-05-22 21:59:07.

Hey pals!

I work for an online service based organization that essentially helps business owners and entrepreneurs attract qualified leads & new clients. Our service delivery team is primarily made up of LGBTQ employees - and a good chunk of them are trans and non binary.

We've recently have been experiencing some friction between our service delivery department and our sales and marketing department. The main problem is the sales team is accepting new clients that are "subtly" transphobic. I put subtly in quotes because it is very obvious to our trans employees but since the sales team is uneducated on anti trans dog whistles and alt-right pipelines.

So this is where my ask comes in. I am in search of an organization that can provide our whole team with tips and tools on how to recognize these red flag clients. It would need to go beyond topics like Trans Inclusion in the work place.

FWIW we were all set to go with a Trans 101 training from TTI (not exactly what we wanted but it was within the set aside budget our CEO gave us) but they emailed us to let us know they were ceasing all training sessions going forward and shuttering the org.

Thank you all so much in advance - I really want to make sure my trans coworkers feel safe, supported and listened to.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/moderatelime on 2023-07-28 03:43:42.

We get a lot of requests from academics and sometimes journalists to be allowed to post calls for participation here. Should such posts be allowed here?

If you think some should be allowed and not others, please feel free to comment what you think the criteria should be.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/Quiet_Dirt_3985 on 2023-08-12 19:54:35.

I 43f and my husband 48m have a 19f who now want to change her name and use the pronouns he / him which I’m fine with but he still dresses feminine and has a Boyfriend so I’m very confused I would ask him but we are not speaking right now because everything I say he say I’m criticizing him .We are having a family event soon and they are coming and I know theirs going to be a lot of questions afterwards from family and I’m not sure what to say .

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/SWELL_lab on 2023-08-06 01:24:47.

Hi everyone!

We’re the Sexuality and Well-being (SWell) Lab at the University of British Columbia. We are a group of psychological scientists who conduct multi-method research to identify risk and protective factors contributing to sexual health and well-being of individuals and couples.

We’re currently recruiting people to participate in a ~30 min online survey in understanding people's sexual pleasure! We hope that others will benefit from what we learn about sexual pleasure from this study!

All participants and identities will be kept strictly confidential, and data collection is anonymous. Data will be identified only by a random survey identification number.

To participate, click the following link to begin the survey:

The Principal Investigator of this study is Dr Samantha J. Dawson. For more information, check out our website:

Ethics ID: H22-02733

Note: Endorsement of this ad or post will publicly link you with the study. This post has been approved by moderators.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/collinhalss on 2023-07-22 18:24:02.

Hello everyone,

Researchers at the University of Kentucky are investigating the sense of interconnectedness between people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgender. Note: this study is for people whose primary identification is lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgender (LGBT), rather than queer. This study is being conducted by Kay Hales at the University of Kentucky and supervised by Dr. Ellen D.B. Riggle, PhD. This study will investigate LGBT people’s sense of interconnectedness, how LGBT people conceptualize interconnectedness, and LGBT people’s reactions and emotions to current events. You will be asked to complete a 45-60 minute interview and will be compensated $25 for your time after completing the interview. These interviews will be conducted over the phone or via Zoom (no visual recording). We are currently recruiting participants who are 23+ and currently live in the United States.

If you are interested or would like additional information about this study, please email Kay Hales at [kayhales@uky.edu](mailto:kayhales@uky.edu). Feel free to reply to this post if you have further questions or would prefer to be in contact over Reddit.

Thank you for considering this research opportunity.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/smisipower on 2023-07-17 11:24:39.

My mom is a very kind and loving person usually. She had good relations with my boyfriend when he was in the closet. But ever since he came out to her, she is not so subtly distancing herself from him, hinting she wished we broke up. In the first couple of weeks she was openly transphobic, saying she believes it is a mental disorder he needs to figure out. When I explained how hurtful she is being, she dialed down her rhetoric, saying she doesn't care how he lives his life, but that she's worried he is "feminizing me" and confusing me. It came to a point they are both scared of being together.

My mother is a practising psychoanalyst, with a classical Freudian education, and I can't shake the feeling this world view fuels her transphobia. My dad, for contrast, has similar background but he had much easier time excepting my boyfriend's gender.

Does anybody has advice on how to help my mother be better with my boyfriend? Relatedly, does anyone had a recommendation for an introductory book for psychologists about trans issues?

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/Mitchem12 on 2023-07-15 01:23:28.

I want to start out by saying I live in Tennessee so I really have not been exposed to any of Gender theory in my life. After a lot of thinking I think I have a decent idea of what gender is so I want to see if other that are more educated than me on the subject agree.

Individuals are born and the vast majority develop into two natural categories, male and female. Yes there are intersex people, but that is not the natural order of things just how it would not be the natural order of things for a child to be born without arms. If all goes right people will be born into these two broad categories. The vocabulary we have for the group of these two categories is sex which refers to a physical reality of the person.

It has been said philosophy is the art of distinction. If one thinks about the usage and concepts of the words "man" and "women" enough they will realize there is a distinction to be made. Man and woman can also refer to the properties attributed to how we typically expect biological men and women to act. For example, when one says, "John acts like a real man" they don't refer to a physical reality, they refer to how people within the category of "man" are typically thought to act. In this distinction we have made, we have identified another category or thing which is not in refering to the physical reality. This category is called gender and (using a definition I have heard before) are the societal roles and expectations placed on people of a certain sex.

We also observe some individuals might not fit into the group of how society expects a biological male to act. For example, a male might FEEL they relate more with the group of how society expects biological women to act. In fact, we have already, for a long time, had words to describe this phenomenon. We find this description the words masculine and feminine. So it makes perfect sense to say, "Adam is a feminine male". While Adam is biologically male, he might act or feel more in accordance with how females are expected to act. However, some people identify with neither the male or female categories and identify as non-binary. In all honesty this confuses me a lot because I can't conceptualize what properties would be ascribed to that category nor how one would feel such that they fall into that category, I just recognize people do fell that way. Now this is where I it starts to get more interesting for me. So we can logically derive the existence of the gender categories of male and female which have their origin in biological males and females (how could we have perceptions about individuals in a category if the underlying category in which we have preception on does not exist?). Then we also have individuals falling into a category of "neither one". But then we have genders which do not fall into these 3 categories and I do have a guess about their existence. I am guessing any gender is just a way to say where exactly on the spectrum between felling male and female you fall. For example, a demiboy is someone who doesn't fully identify as male but is like half way there. I am imagining it like a finite number line between -1(-1 = fully female) and 1 (1 = fully male). A demi boy is like 0.5. But of course if we consider irrational numbers we can get things like 0.123521312. In fact we have a infinite amount of number (genders) which can occur on this number line and individuals can fall anywhere on it (they don't just fall at -1 or 1). Therefore, that is why we have so many genders, because we basically have a infinite numbers of ways people feel in reguard to their gender and it is desired we have vocabulary to describe all the ways people feel.

I am a little sussy on that last explanation because I have never had that reasoning confirmed/denied if I am getting the right idea so please let me know! The thing that has confused me in the past is the statement "gender and sex have no connection" which, if true, renders my entire explanation above void. Clearly in my current understanding they do have a connection in that gender proceeds from the biological differences between men and women. I am also confused about about the desire people feel to need to surgically transition to the other sex. Attempting to make your sex match your gender seems like a very big change considering the fact societies ideas around how men and women aught to act can change rapidly (can change substantially over a person's lifetime). What if in 50 years societal views of masculinity and femininity change such that you now identify more with your original sex at birth. Of course I am like 96% sure I am missing something because I have never talked to a trans person in my life (not have I ever had the opportunity to in real life to my knowledge). I am really excited to hear replies and I am sure I will learn a lot here.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/Breech_Loader on 2023-07-02 14:16:05.

I know this is a trans-board, but there's something I'm realising by talking to you all. It's not something you've 'convinced' me of. It's just something I'm realising.

I don't think I'm straight.

I've been looking things up, and talking in places, and watching fun videos. And I'm increasingly certain that I'm actually an Asexual. And the more I look back at my life, I'm realising I always have been. And if I can always have been, then you can always have been.

I was afraid of 'admitting' it because I was afraid of being alone.

The sex I had was never particuarly fulfilling - not for my ex and not for me. It was just that He - actually She - realised sooner, while I became the villain who caused all the problems. The only people who sympathised were other transphobes - but now I know I wasn't necesserily talking to people who hated you, just people who didn't understand you, like me. I wound up with Alphabet Issues the length of my arm.

I still think some of the articles you sent are SOOOO biased. I still think some people are way too sensitive. But I don't have to stop thinking that just because I'm Asexual, because being Asexual doesn't change who I really am. I'm not broken, and neither are you.

Thanks to you all, I'm coming to terms with the fact that my sexuality doesn't matter, and if my sexuality doesn't matter, neither does yours. It's only as important as we want it to be.

The things I've always known were true, finally make sense.

I've even commissioned myself some art to depict my realisation (I love art!) and I found DOZENS of people willing to draw my request. Of course I could only pick one, but the fact that so many people were willing to listen has given me so much hope.

I know I still have my issues. I know you've only known me a couple of days. But now I'm coming to terms with my own sexuality, it's like my other issues are flowing away like drainwater.

Thankyou, from the bottom of my heart.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/nsfwonlyanonymous on 2023-07-02 12:20:49.

I'm a cis, pan man about 25yo. My partner is my age, and he's a trans man. He uses he/him pronouns, and goes by (what I consider to be) a very masculine name.

In terms of appearance, he is not on T and has not had any surgeries. He has a little bit past chin length hair (which is about where mine is too), and he dresses pretty masc (more so than me sometimes).

What saddens me is, when we go on dates or meet new people, he sometimes gets misgendered. We volunteered at a garden today, and the woman running it misgendered him twice, despite the fact that she knew his name.

It bothers him, even if he doesn't show it right away. It hurts me a lot to see him that way. I've asked if he'd like me to correct people when they do it, but he feels like it's too late at that point.

I guess what I'm wondering is, does anyone have any recommendations about how I could signal to folks during introductions that he is a man? The only thing I could think of really is to introduce him as my boyfriend.

I also do work behind the scenes, like with friends, parents, etc. to let them know he's not a woman (not by outing him, just by referring to him as my bf/using proper pronouns). I'd appreciate any feedback, including things that make you/your partner feel better when you've been misgendered.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/Breech_Loader on 2023-07-01 14:04:15.

I think one of the things I should and can work on to deal with my Trans-Issues is the pronouns thing. I tell myself it's just a word while at the same time as somebody who loves writing so much, I put great value on words myself.

I've been told by multiple people here that I should respect their pronouns and I suppose the old saying applies, "Check your shoes".

People have already been so kind here so I'm asking, with a desire to be educated by people with experience, why the correct pronoun is so important to you?

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/Breech_Loader on 2023-06-30 23:40:41.

I don't want to be transphobic any more. I've wanted to stop eing transphobic for years, in fact. But every time I start looking for help with it, I hit a dead end in so many ways.

1: Somebody tells me I'm not transphobic because I don't hate Trans people. Which I suppose is comforting, but not entirely true.

2: Next, somebody tells me that I AM transphobic, that I'm a malicious, bigoted person, and it's up to me to magically change my opinions.

3: I look for help on a Reddit forum and am instantly attacked for admitting I'm transphobic at all.

4: I look up Google for "How to stop being transphobic" and all I get is pages of the terrible things happening to transexuals, or advice on how to spot transphobia, or support for transexuals faced with Transphobia, but not a jot on how to better myself.

How can anybody stop being transphobic when they're instantly attacked for asking for help?

In that vein, I'd appreciate some help to stop being transphobic.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/academicfuckupripme on 2023-05-22 19:09:53.

Been doing another deep-dive into the studies surrounding gender-affirming care, particularly around young people, and I've been wondering if there are places I could go to ask about certain trans studies by those who are well-informed regarding trans studies, especially if they have an educational background that makes them well-suited to examining studies.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/ZealousidealDust7290 on 2023-05-21 05:35:24.

What was gender dysphoria for y’all?? I’m a gay cismale and I just wanna fully understand my trans sisters and bros

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/ThaEmceeToby on 2023-05-20 23:34:57.

Hi all. Since I live with my parents, I was wondering if products shipped from Transthetics are discrete? Can you tell that there is a penile prosthetic in the shipping container?

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/TheHomoAlpaca on 2023-05-20 09:06:54.

This question has probably been asked a lot, but all the scenarios don't really align with what I kind went through. My partner says that anyone can have it, but I just wanted to double check.

I've always been cis and never questioned my gender, pronouns sure, but not my gender. I stopped dressing feminine early on cause kids dresses are itchy and uncomfortable, eventually I just started to dress and look more masculine because I didn't think I was feminine enough to be able to wear that stuff. I felt like I wasn't allowed because of the way my body was; more body hair than others, wider shoulders, and even some facial hair.

People would mistake me for a boy and at the time it made me smile, but looking back at it, it just proved my point; that I was too masculine looking to be feminine. During this time I had really bad body insecurity, I wanted to be more pretty and more feminine but felt like I was just stuck with what I got and had to suck it up. It was the luck of the draw when it comes to genetics anyways. I grew envious of more femme presenting people, even ones who had the same features as me, but they just looked more... feminine.

I tried to branch out once and got called cursed when I wore a dress, after that I decided to not wear anything like that again. I only gain confidence to try and wear that stuff after I met my partner and now I feel more secure and comfortable with my body.

I've listened to trans femme stories and kinda resonated with them, but I didn't really say anything cause it might've been disrespectful.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/LittleGruz on 2023-05-17 11:15:34.

I have been looking into wearing apparel that overtly supports trans rights (e.g. shirt, pins), and I'd love to know if anyone has suggestions (are "trans rights are human rights" or LGBTQIA+ flag shirts okay) or ways I can get stuff like that from legit trans-activist groups.

I live in Australia so I'd love to be able to draw out curious people before too much of the USA culture war gets imported here by Murdoch.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/jcr00ks on 2023-05-10 16:58:08.

Hey Lovelies, my name is Jessica Crooks and I co-run a Meetup group here in London for the local trans community. Alongside Ray Lavery, we've been branching out to produce a series of Webinars with experts in the field under the banner: Trans Matters Worldwide.

For reference our previous Webinars can be seen here:

Next week we're hosting a chat with Mr Chris Inglefield; an ace surgeon here in the city and thought we'd extend the invitation further. It's totally free to join and will be broadcast live from 18:30 - 19:30 (BST) on the 16th of May. If you can't make the live webinar, the chat will be posted to our YT channel afterwards, but do sign up if you want your questions answered!

Hope to see you there,

Thanks,

Jess x

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/TTAlt5000 on 2023-04-30 15:09:37.

What would be some good resources to debunk common misconceptions and arguments?

I consider myself a trans ally, but I need to get better at talking with other cis people about this.

Any help would be appreciated.

Edit:

It appears "debate" might have been a poor choice of words.

I do not mean that I want to debate with debate bros or Republican nazis.

I'm trying to educate my centrist head-in-the-sand friends and family.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/MakIsTop on 2023-04-24 00:10:08.

My mother decided to scare me with my aunt who had breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy so i have to ask. Are there any issues related to the lymphatic system after the surgery? (got me anxious cuz she said that i can lose touch in my arms, more so fingers, and since i'm an artist, hands are important to me) I've been thinking about top surgery for a while not only cuz of dysphoria but also sensory issues related to them, so this scares me a lot.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/ThaEmceeToby on 2023-04-10 01:17:16.

Hello all! I was wondering if I could have some recommendations for online gender-affirming care. I live in Nevada and my insurance is Aetna. I am mainly looking for HRT (testosterone). I’ve looked at options such as Plume, Circle Medical, and FOLX Health, and others. What do you guys use? What should I avoid?

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/kali291 on 2023-04-08 00:57:02.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/QueensUni_Qshrl on 2023-03-31 02:16:02.

The Sexual Health Research Laboratory at Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario, Canada is calling for transgender, non-binary, two-spirit, gender diverse, and intersex individuals to participate in a focus group or interview to help aid the development of a comprehensive and inclusive measure of sexual wellbeing that can be used to assess one’s broad experience of sexual wellbeing in both research and healthcare settings.

In medical and psychological research we use surveys to assess various aspects of sexual wellbeing (e.g., sexual function, satisfaction, etc.,). However, these measures presume binary anatomy. As a queer researcher, I want to change this!

Participants must be able to read and write in English, be 18 years of age or older, reside in Canada or the US, and be comfortable answering questions about sexuality. You do not need to be sexually active to participate. Participation will consist of the completion of a ~15-minute online demographic survey, and, if selected to participate, engage in a confidential 60 – 120 minute focus group or interview over Zoom (you can choose!). Entry into prize draws are available for the online survey and as a thank you for your participation! Those selected to participate in the interview will be compensated for their time. To participate please contact us at [qshrl@queensu.ca](mailto:qshrl@queensu.ca) and mention the Chromatic study for an interview and Kaleidoscope study for the focus group!

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/CryoProtea on 2023-03-29 18:32:59.

I want to help my mom understand, but I'm not good at explaining these things, myself. I'm MtF, if that matters. I'm not a child, but I live with my parents.

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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/CWang on 2023-03-21 17:20:47.