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If you are looking for a more secure and safe trans space, we suggest you visit https://hexbear.net/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns. While we will try our best, lemmy.ml/c/transgender is far more open to the fediverse, and also to trolls. One of the site admins of lemmy.ml, nutomic, is also a transphobe, while hexbear is ran mostly by trans people and has a very active trans community.
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One way or another, Lemmy has many communities. Even if you don't have any preconceptions about women, others will. And even if it's all in my head and nobody on lemmy has such prejudices -- she/her isn't my identity, but my username is. jsomae is how I choose to present to the world, and I don't want femininity to be a part of how I present.
then to ask simply, how do you want people to refer to you when talking to you online? whether you include a pronoun tag or not, people are going to refer to you
Exactly the same way I expect people to know I'm Canadian. That is to say, I expect people to call me she/her if they recognise me or in the rare event my sex is relevant and surfaces ("my experience as a woman is...").
Pragmatically, most people will he/him me if they are Neanderthalpilled and they/them me if they are based, as is the rule online. :P (and those he/himmers will assume I'm American as well.)