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How to avoid an argument with antisemite you're living with? (hexbear.net)
submitted 5 months ago by YourMom@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Staying with my mom for a couple months before I do this study abroad thing. She is obsessed with George Soros, but not other billionaires. Keeps saying things that are halfway antisemitic tropes, but let's be real. She's super religious and thinks some things about jews she's afraid to say.

Today was the classic, "paid protestors" where she kept going on and on. Showed me a fake job listing and a christian blog post as proof. I said that's not proof, so agree to disagree right?

How would y'all handle this? Do I just give up on refuting this crap? I have a lot of jewish friends, and this shit really drives my anger/anxiety through the roof, so I do not think I can just have a rational convo. But I also don't wanna sit next to racist crap being spewed and say nothing.

I could find another living situation, but it's like an hour away from where all my friends/other fam live and I have already asked these people for a ton of favors.

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[–] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Broken record technique. You're not going to convince someone who doesn't respect you or listen to you on such subjects. So simply repeat the exact same line, something like "I'm not having this conversation with you", or "we're not talking politics". Explain that the person's obsession with the subject is distressing and off-putting, and you want to have an enjoyable relationship with them, so x or y topic is off limits. Then you just answer every hint of her talking about it with your broken record script.

Don't waste your energy trying to change people who don't want to change.

Edit: don't forget to follow your own boundary too, don't bring up politics with her.