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How do you get over a crush? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by ComicalMayhem@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Say hypothetically I've already shot my shot and was shot down, how would I go about getting over this (without rebounding to other people or whatever)?

Edit: Thanks everyone, for all the comments, support, and advice! Majority rules a tie between time and distractions lol. Seriously though thanks y'all

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[–] midimalist@lemdro.id 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This is the most comprehensive strategy that I can vouch for.

Done all of them.

I would say, the last one is underrated but very much useful not just for getting over a crush but for personal growth in general, which is a lifetime skill.

You'd be surprised by how many adults don't understand themselves or even avoid doing self-reflection. In consequences, stumble upon the same problem again and again without taking different/better approach to handle them.

[–] Don_Dickle@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I have known friends who have had a crush on someone. For me I never had. But they were not honest upfront. On my first date I told a date that I was a functional alcoholic and a traveling nurse. And I do not do sex on the first or the second date. I leave it up to them if they leave I know its not ment to be and never think about it again. Depends on how fine they are a couple of them I may have tickled my skittle to them but thats it. If you are having real problems or thoughts of harm please call 988 in the states or give me a pm and maybe just maybe we can talk.