Asklemmy

I call my personal strategy the 3Ds: Distance, Distraction, and Description.

First, I distance myself from my crush. This includes exposure such as social media. I have, in the past, told my crush that I needed time to get over them before I can be in a place to interact with them again. The first time, I never really could and had to cut all contact. The second (and last) time it went well and we were able to continue our friendship for years until life distanced us. It’s all context-dependent, so you’ll have to decide for yourself if you still want to be friends. Otherwise, out of sight and out of mind.

Next, I distract myself. While I still spend time processing my emotions and disappointment, I make sure to do things I enjoy to take my mind off everything. I hang out with friends, play video games, read, watch movies, etc. If not, I will spend whatever idle time I have thinking about my crush, which can make it difficult to get over them.

Finally, description. This one sounds a little weird because I had to use a word to fit the 3D theme, but this one is all about processing. I write about my feelings or talk to my friends/a professional about it. Sometimes, I research other people’s experiences and reflect on how I relate. No matter the medium, I describe what I’m feeling or how I’m hurting. It releases some of that internal pressure I feel and sometimes gives me something I can analyze and understand about myself and my feelings.

Don’t know how much this helps you but everyone’s process is different. As long as you are exploring ways to move on and being mindful of what works and what doesn’t (for you), you’ll get there with time. Good luck and feel better soon my friend!

Time.

Do other things and in time you will be over it.

Realize that the person who rejected you is the wrong person, since why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Dodged a bullet there

Make sure your romantic life isn't the only thing you are focused on. make sure you are doing things that you enjoy and spending time with people you care about. If you have a good social network any 1 part can have problems and they will suck but it's not losing everything which makes it suck way less.

Accept that not everyone will like you back, in fact, most won't. Mourne the loss, be sad, cry, then get up and carry on, because there will be another.

I also prefer to stay friends if I can, because if I loved them for some reason, them not feeling anything for me doesn't change that, so I want them in my life.

Some of this was only possible due to the fact that I have had my heart broken too many times to count, so it's also a thing of practicing radical acceptance.

Go to a party with your friends, and instantly fall in love with the daughter of your father’s enemy. Sneak up to her window that night and flirt heavily, winning her heart.

At this point I highly recommend secretly marrying her, but be cautious that the enmity between the two families may cause you to get your friend killed, leading you to kill your now-cousin due to the afore-mentioned wedding.

At this point it can get pretty crazy… but the girl you were pining for? Her name never comes up again.

Crushes tend to seem unattractive after you learn everything else about them.

Don't know how old you are but I have had to several times and can't think what to say. You just put it behind you and move on. Be proud you stepped up and took your shot and accept the reality that it did not work out. If your a male this is just a fact of life in general. I will tell you that you did the right thing though. I have had friends who would position themselves in the friend zone for years with the thought they would just get to know them and realize how perfect they were or something. Its an aweful situation and I am glad I was able to avoid it as it was common in my peronality type of guy. You may not be a guy but I can really only give a guys perspective.

In general, we just... do. What that looks like is going to be different for everyone and how you get there will be unique to you, but even without trying you almost certainly just will... get over it. Necessity if nothing else will help with that. You've still got to feed yourself, maintain your friendships and any other relationships you have, pay your bills, advance your goals and carry on. Life doesn't typically care very much that you'd really rather just put it on hold and ruminate for a while.

I guess that doesn't sound very helpful but time has a way of doing the getting over for us. Sometimes you need more of it, depending on the source and magnitude of your pain, but eventually enough time is all you need.

To put it in perspective, if you've ever experienced this before, the previous crush likely doesn't feature too loudly on your radar right now and yet they might have been your whole world at one stage. If this is the first time you've been through this, it probably won't be your last and there are probably similarly painful experiences in your past that seemed very important to you when they were fresh that are all but forgotten now. Try to remember that you walked that passage from all consuming fixation, to just a memory before and you can walk it again.

On a more practical level it probably would help things go faster if you could avoid too much contact with the person for a while so you don't have to keep raking over the unpleasant emotions associated with the rejection and don't have to keep fighting the urge to try your luck again when reminded of how much you like them, but then again often work or school or other environments can force you to have to see someone repeatedly even after there's awkwardness between the two of you. In that scenario, well, to repeat the initially glib and unhelpful sounding advice, it'll just happen with time, even when it feels like it won't, don't worry - you will get over this.

Let yourself feel whatever you feel and observe it. Think about how you would react if you saw a close friend or family member going through that. Most kind people would say something comforting or express some form of compassion.

The most important thing to remember is that there will be lots of good and bad things that happen in life, and holding on/ruminating over the past and obsessing over/fearing the future are probably best avoided.

A little reflection and self compassion is good and healthy, but long term rumination and self loathing is when things can get unhealthy quick. Discerning when one turns into the other is difficult, but do your best and try to be self aware of how you're feeling as you navigate these truly difficult emotions.

Know that this experience, the emotions and the thoughts caught up in it, are part of what makes you human, and that ultimately, it's one of many experiences that will add up to who you are and who you'll eventually become. In every moment, you are, whether consciously or subconsciously, engaging with the world and the circumstances you find yourself in, and becoming who you want/need to be.

Be aware of that, and control what you are capable of controlling about who you want to become. It's like navigating a river, you're not completely in control nor out of control. Ultimately all you can do is try your best to get to where you want to go, knowing it won't be perfect nor will it go exactly to plan, but nevertheless you carry on.

Been over 30 years still don't know

People say time and distractions and whatever else ... but the only advice that ever really helped me was a line from some character on a TV show I don't even remember:

"In my experience, to move on, you've actually got to move on."

In other words... Go meet new people, get a new crush, find the greener pasture.

Booze, tears, and a long walk home.

Work on yourself :D Do things that you like, go out with friends, pickup a new hobby. You know, people come and go, you'll have yourself until you die

Time.

Imagine if she did say yes. Then imagine your lives together, getting married etc. then imagine your biggest argument, lies, cheating, divorce, losing custody of your children and then ending up as a drunk on the streets, with no purpose in life, waiting to die.

Hang out with friends & follow routine. Life goes on, even if you don't feel like it for the time.

Time and distance are really the only things I've found that work. It really sucks to be rejected, but you are deserving of love and respect. On the bright side, you have the opportunity to put all that time and energy you put into your crush into yourself. Do something nice for yourself, you deserve it.

I think that doing some soul searching and determining if the friendship you have with the person is something you can continue healthily is a big thing a lot of people don't do. Then just taking time and distracting yourself with other positive interests that help you feel good about yourself so you don't do the why aren't I good enough spiral. Other than that just making sure you don't continue to push the issue or guilt the person for not wanting a romantic relationship

Time. Try to focus on hobbies or other things you enjoy, try to surround yourself with positive influences, and let time do the work.

There's nothing wrong with rebounding, as long as you recognize that's what you're doing. Have a fling, just try not to break any hearts. Let them know you're just having fun and aren't ready for something serious.

But to your first question, distract yourself with as many interesting things as you can. People, games, movies, sports, work, hobbies. Find the next exciting thing. Basically, continue thriving after the adversity of rejection.

Throw yourself into a hobby, hang out with friends, or just date casually

Marry them, aylmao.

A good hobby does wonders to keep you distracted enough to have the time to heal and move forward. If it's something creative (Painting, writing, dancing, singing, playing an instrument, creating a map for Doom) is better. Work on yourself, Eat what you like, listen to what you like, dress as you like, keep yourself clean, and keep in mind that is not your fault, there's nothing wrong with you and things just happens, that's all.

You can do something cathartic. After getting dumped, I once pushed a tree down in my back garden and carried it around to the front of the house for disposal. My muscles ached and I was cut and bruised but felt a lot better afterwards. Other times I've just gone out drinking with friends. There are sater more controlled ways of doing it - try exercising to exhaustion, get away for the weekend and GI hiking, drive a tank, go to one of those places where you can smash things up, organise a big paintballing session, etc. Something that breaks you out of your routine, preferably gets you out of your local area, needs all your focus and tires you out. It should take your mind off things, get you so focused and tired you aren't brooding about it and provide a symbolic break so you can leave your baggage behind on the other side.

It's not an instant cure, this will all take time but it's a decisive first step.

honestly my personal stance on this might be very different from yours, but here's a short overview:

• people seek security in life. people don't want to be left out or left alone; this is why people get jealous. You need to find a stable social and economic basis in your life. Otherwise, you start clinging to other people, and that can't be good.

• people seek social contact. that is why people go out and find other people that they're attracted to. that doesn't mean that you have to spend time with exactly one other person. make contact to lots of people, so there is enough diversity. think of it that way: you wouldn't eat the same thing every day, for the rest of your life. you need some changes sometimes.

• do not get clingy. remember that people can fail on you for any reason, be it accidental death or sickness or simply their psychological fuss. Don't assume that a person that you spend time with today and love very much will be here for the rest of your life. Assume that the relationship might end or decrease in intensity within a month or three. then, build your actions on these assumptions.

Go get a escort

Gym(exercise, walk), reading(knowledge) and meditation, and never ever have contact with he/she again(no friends or whatever).