So, I'm currently dating someone, and it's my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They're a "newer" lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We've talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.
Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I'm not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?
Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.
I don't think you should say you love them after 4 dates. It can depend though. My previous relationship I don't think I ever truly felt I loved them, though I did eventually say it back to them after quite a long time.
This time, me and my partner said it simultaneously. We are both pretty attachment averse people, but for us it happened fast. Probably like 1 and a half months in, but we were on a project together abroad so we hung out a hell of a lot.