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If someone offers you something you don't want, simply say no thank you. Don't say "no I don't like that" as if you are 4.
Problem is this more often than not results in "awwww come on, why not?"
So many of us NDs have developed the method of explaining why we decline when we do so to just avoid the point. No, I'm not feeling that right now, thanks anyway! Works wonders
Well just say no thank you, not something I like. At least include the thank you part unlike my CW.
Yeah, thanking someone who's genuinely offering you something is basic manners and to be expected.
I was more responding to the explaining part because I've been told in person that it's perceived as rude (only by one person, even with a thank you) and I don't want that becoming more common, for the reasons I already mentioned
But they will ask again, and I am so fuckdamn tired of repeating myself to be polite.
Any prescriptive etiquette bugaboos like that make you sound like a square. Emily Post was a square too.