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it always embarassed me growing up that our house was kind of dirty.

like i avoided bringing women over and shit because of the clutter.

i cant be the only one who grew up like this.

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[–] Chronicon@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I thought one of my good friends was like that in HS. Turns out her parents are just actual hoarders. It's gotten even worse over the years, I've helped clean there a little. My house was often too neat for normal people but somehow never clean enough for the wannabe rich-fuck strivers.

I'm just trying not to become a hoarder myself tbh, when I live alone sometimes it gets bad (not hoarder bad just messy) because I don't want to be alone at home so I don't stay home and clean when I have literally any other option.

Honestly depending on how bad "kind of dirty" is to you, my go-to is to just say fuck it and have people over anyhow. It's either in your control, in which case they're seeing an accurate picture of how you live, or out of your control and in that case if they can't understand that your living situation isn't a reflection of your own personal cleanliness, they can be disregarded