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I consistently have this issue where I legit cannot tell if someone is being snarky or mean it just bounces right off. Then i spend ages wondering if a certain phrase was meant to be an underhanded insult or not or what the subtext was supposed to be.

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[–] LanyrdSkynrd@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

I do that, but I'm trying to stop. Someone will say something or make a face when I say something and I'll obsess over what it meant for ages. I usually come to the conclusion most damaging to my psyche.

I'm trying to just assume everyone loves me and that they'll tell me if they dislike me or I said something cringe. I think it's the best way for me. I might miss a sneaky insult or not react to someone's dislike of something I've said, but I'll be happier.