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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


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2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

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And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.

How the fuck am I supposed to tell what's just people doing things at random and what's a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call "social norms"? Down with NTs.

Honestly while it's really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it's basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.

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[–] Rom@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (9 children)

Why do people have to say "bless you" when someone sneezes? Surely even people who believe in souls don't still think your soul escapes when you sneeze? Why do people even have to comment on normal bodily functions at all? Why is it rude if I don't respond to people responding to me making an ordinary, involuntary bodily noise??? AHHHHHHHHHH

[–] roux@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago

I used to say "don't worry, I'm not superstitious" a lot when people said bless you and just quit because no one thought my actually hilarious joke was funny. 😞

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The expectation to say "bless you" felt so performative and insincere.

I tried to swap to "Gesundheit" because it was a wish for good health, technically, but that often annoyed people. debord-tired

[–] spectre@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I think we should do it

I think everyone on hb should be a "gesundtheit" person

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 10 points 2 months ago

Unlimited good health upon the Hexbear world hexbear-direct-action

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 2 months ago

I WILL NOT SPEAK GERMAN. URAAAAAAA 🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🇵🇱🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥👑👑👑👑👑👑

[–] gramxi@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

I've started saying "nice one" because everyone assumes you said "bless you" so they automatically follow it up with a "thank you" anyway

[–] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 2 months ago

In Poland we say "Na zdrowie" which literally means "For good health". Even if it's only an allergy, I think it's nice to wish people good health after a sneeze.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 2 months ago

I usually say some shit like "I've no use for blessings" lol

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago

gesundheit superiority

[–] pepperjacques@lemmy.ml 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Your heart can hiccup/stop if you sneeze hard enough. It's kinda like a "In case you pass out/die". I'm not NT, but I was born, raised, and live in the Southern US. I kinda just autopilot it.

[–] booty@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago

I have often said, "no thank you" or simply "no" in response to that lol

[–] magi@hexbear.net 7 points 2 months ago

This usually makes me uncomfortable lol