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Are they meant to be used like any other set of pronouns? What's the possessive form?
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I tacked comrade/them on at first because I thought it was cute and also felt like a solidarity thing to stand with trans and enbies folks. Idk if that is ok or not. More recently I'm starting to dive a bit more into gender as a social construct and how it's bullshit. I'm sort of wondering if it's ok to switch to they/them though even though I mostly identity and present as cis male. But I don't really care about my gender much anymore. Idk, I don't wanna feel like I'm stepping on toes.
Yeah I guess I feel a similar way tbh, I'm perfectly comfortable with taking masculinity and keeping the bits I like while discarding the toxic crap so I feel solidly cis. But at the same time, if someone theys me I don't mind, I know a few people that use they/them as the default for everyone and I can kinda get behind that (so long as it's corrected for those who don't wish to use they/them pronouns of course).
Yeah my default for others is they/them unless specified or I am corrected. I don't really connect masculinity to my maleness and if I am honest, I'm actually a pretty feminine male anyway. I just present as and am assumed to be a male. And like I said I am cis as far as I am aware.