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Please don't think I'm here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.

The term I dislike strongly is 'eeeh' before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I've been pavloved bc it's always used by someone disagreeing. But I'm happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the 'eeeh' or 'erm' that annoys me.

So what's a random term that annoys you?

PS. Saying "eeeh actually 'eeh' is a perfectly fine term" would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I've said all this.

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[โ€“] roscoe@startrek.website 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Bemused

It's used incorrectly so often that even when I suspect it's being used correctly I can't be sure. At this point its ambiguity makes it a bad word choice.

[โ€“] bunkyprewster@startrek.website 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

What's the correct usage? and the wrong one you've been hearing?

[โ€“] roscoe@startrek.website 7 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

It means puzzled and/or confused.

Many authors seem to think it means amused mixed with some confusion or puzzlement or something else like that.

Some dictionaries have started to include definitions along those lines, which is correct to do if that is becoming a common usage. But that makes the word bullshit because it no longer conveys a clear meaning. Unlike some words that gain new meanings through misuse, it's usually not clear which meaning is intended from context. Usually I can easily imagine a character's response to something to be either of these definitions so I often can't understand the author's intention. I often find myself taken out of the story while I try to understand which meaning I should use. Because of this I think the word has become useless and shouldn't be used.

[โ€“] frauddogg@hexbear.net 4 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Many authors seem to think it means amused mixed with some confusion or puzzlement or something else like that.

I actually kind of blame that abominable terf Joanne Rowling for this one; I know I've seen her use this word a dozen different ways that never line up with each other back in the days before we knew the Harry Potter woman was about as hateful as a southern Baptist

[โ€“] criitz@reddthat.com 3 points 1 month ago

Correct: confused or perplexed

Incorrect: amused

It means something in the vein of confused but people think it means amused

[โ€“] miracleorange@beehaw.org 3 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Me with nonplussed. I have a friend who uses it and he says it in situations that are ambiguous enough that I can't tell if he actually knows what it means.

[โ€“] roscoe@startrek.website 1 points 4 weeks ago

Yup, that's another one. I think that one is even worse because the new usage makes it a contranym. Dictionaries are starting to include the new usage of that one too. Unless you have a reason to be pretty sure the author/speaker knows the correct definition, it can be difficult to tell.