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Xenia, the fox girl mascot of Linux, was first designed in 1996 by Alan Mackey. She was meant to be an alternative to Tux, the official mascot.

She had fallen into obscurity, but was noticed by a Twitter user in 2019 and was redrawn as a fox girl. But as it turned out, Xenia was originally meant to be male! The original creator, Alan, was cool with this, saying "It matches the transition of a lot of the smartest, nerdiest Linux users I know" and "And sure, you made her trans!".

So now we have a trans Linux mascot. And I think that's neat.


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[–] RainbowReflection@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago (15 children)

Hi, I'm new here blob-no-thoughts

CW: dysphoria, transmedicalism, sad, transphobia
spoiler :( I want to be a woman, but I'm not. It's been like four years of wanting to be a girl, but my egg only really cracked this June. Before my egg cracked, my concept of gender identity was that I wasn't really a boy, and I wanted to be a girl, but obviously I was totally cis because even though I knew about the existence of trans people, I couldn't possibly be one of them, after all, trans people know that they are trans at the age of four and are conviced that they are the other gender. I don't know what I was thinking.

Last year someone in my ap computer science class came out as trans, our teacher told us that the student wanted to tell us something, and people were like "did [deadname] die?" and the teacher said that the student wanted to go by a different name and pronouns. Then someone goes said that he wouldn't use she/her pronouns to refer to someone who doesn't look like a girl. At least some people were respectful, though. The point is, I can't trust the people around me to not be bigoted, although most of the people in that class, have graduated. The trans student was very cool though, she was one of the only students who took the class seriously (I think there might be something in the computers turning people trans!) and was probably a gamer. Too bad she also graduated. I'm not a gamer and I don't have anything interesting about myself. I kind of looked up to her, even though I didn't identify as trans.

My whole life has been a lie of pretending to be someone that I'm not. I'm a minor, and I live with my parents in the wonderful state of Florida, where woke goes to die. I have reason to believe that my parents are transphobic. My family is Catholic. I am not, but they don't know that. I have been pretending for years. I don't say anything about how I feel about my gender.

I am growing more body hair every day. It's awful, and I don't think I've ever had this much. As much as I would like to do something about it, I am scared of what other people would say. I don't even know how to remove it without accidentally hurting myself.

I feel like a robot. I do the same stuff every day, and by that I mean that I don't do anything. I just do my schoolwork, and school gets repetitive. It distracts me from thinking. But guess what, when I do think, I just think about how I want to be a girl, and then I get sad. But I don't actually get sad, since I don't feel my emotions very deeply.

::: spoiler Read at your own risk CW: autogynephilia I think I might have that? But also maybe not? I mean, it can be arousing to imagine myself as a woman? But also I can think of myself as a woman and not be aroused? Autogynephilia has been one of those things that makes me question if I'm really trans. Most research on trans women does make a distinction between two types of trans people, those who find out early and are attracted to men, and those who find out later and are attracted to women, and sometimes have autogynephilia. Yes, I know that this research is stupid. That doesn't help. I still think about it. Also, I'm not really sure if I meet the criteria for gender dysphoria from a transmed perspective. Wikipedia shows the dsm description, but it says that it has to cause clinically significant distress or an impairment in functioning. The thing is, I do well in school, and to most people, especially adults, I appear well functioning. But I don't know, I don't have many friends and no one that I am close to, but I don't think that gender issues are what is causing this?

If you made it this far, I'm sorry for putting you through all of this. I'm okay, even if it sounds like I'm not.

[–] naom3@hexbear.net 15 points 2 days ago (3 children)

cw: autogynephilia dysphoriaAutogynephia isn’t real. There’s no actual evidence that the attracted to men/not attracted to men dichotomy isn’t entirely arbitrary and the whole theory doesn’t even make sense in the first place. Julia Serano has a very thorough take down of it but you need to know that it has been widely discredited even by the medical establishment for a while now and that it isn’t just “stupid” it’s fake. It’s literally just the same old parhologization of women’s sexuality that’s been going on for centuries but applied to trans women and blanchard was only able to briefly gain recognition because of how marginalized we are.

As for dysphoria, I’m sure people will tell you (correctly) that you don’t need to have dysphoria to be trans, but even ignoring that I don’t think dysphporia is a usefull way to think about being trans; dysphoria can manifest as many different things and can be hard to recognize, either because it’s something you haven’t considered, because it’s too subtle, or because, like a fish in water, it’s so omni present that you don’t even notice it. It’s very common for trans people to only realize that something was dysphoria after transitioning or to realize they had more dysphoria than they thought.

Instead of thinking in terms of dysphoria, think about what you want. Do you want to be a girl? If so, you’re trans. That’s all there is to it.

[–] RainbowReflection@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thanks for your reply. You're right, a lot of that "theory" doesn't make any sense at all.

Do you want to be a girl?

Yes. That means I'm trans. But if I'm going to be honest, it all sounds scary. Hopefully I'll be able to overcome these fears.

[–] naom3@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago

It is scary. It was scary for me too and those fears are something we’ve all gone through but it’s worth it to be yourself :meow-hug:

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