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I’m gonna be honest, I’m not asking for a friend, I’m asking for myself. Our daughter (24) married this man (65) in September. She herself stated money was the main reason, and he knows it but it doesn’t bother him. Both my husband & I are having a very hard time getting used to the idea.

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[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

I'm not sure where morality comes into the whys of getting married. Historically, women have married for things other than love, when they had a choice at all. If they maintain fidelity and keep their agreements with each other, how is this any less immoral than marrying for love?

[–] stinerman@midwest.social 2 points 20 minutes ago (1 children)

I would hope that love-based marriages are what we all aspire to. At least in my belief it is. I'm not telling people what they can't do with their lives. There are plenty of things I disapprove of, but I don't go around berating people for not living as I would like them to.

The OP sounded like they didn't like this kind of arrangement for children, possibly for the same reason that I don't like it. So I was letting them know that I agree and sympathize but at the end of the day their child is an adult and can do whatever they want. It is the parents' decision with how they will react to things they don't like their daughter doing.

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 minutes ago

I can agree with all of that, and it's what I hope for for everyone. I just don't think having other priorities is necessarily immoral, although it certainly can be.