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Leave the girl on the subway alone, she'll talk to you if she wants to talk.
So she's allowed to talk to me but I'm not? I mean I wouldn't talk to them usually but if you are friendly why not?
This isolationist mentality of 'do not speak unless spoken to' is one of the more repulsive aspects of modern society. It either implies that only certain people should be worthy of the privilege to initiate conversations, or that nobody should be able to outside of required interactions dictated by circumstances of business or socially mandated exchanges.
Are people so disturbed that anyone would speak to them? There's no hope for improvement of the fractured society we live in if every message needs to be filtered through a screen and displayed to a pre-determined audiance.
I think it may be that a lot of women don’t enjoy the kind of u wanted attention due to their being sexualized from a young age, or that is what I have been told by many women I have talked to about their experiences.
And their experiences are valid, but the response doesn't need to be such an aggressive do-not-approach mentality.
Many years back I was in a shop that had an oldies channel on and I heard this song that, while from well before my time so I'm speculating a bit here, probably caused some panic back in their time.
Now we OnlyFans and TikTok with all their various levels of showing off that has for a long time been championed as empowering and free willed choice.
Somewhere in the middle ground between the excessively conservative repressed mind and the 'everything is sex' space there was a nice middle ground of 'hey, would you like to go out some time' without it being a commitment for either marriage or an orgy.
What if hypothetical you happen to be a girl too?
The only acceptable circumstance is if you both talk to each other at the exact same instance. Extra leeway is granted if you say the same exact thing. If the utterance interval exceeds 250ms, the earlier speaker must turn themselves over to the authorities.
Can't believe you had to ask, really; these are basic social maxims.