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If I had a nickel for every time someone says "this person's being a huge jerk to me but I think they might be neurodivergent"
(lemmy.world)
Regular reminder that being an asshole is not a symptom of any form of neurodivergence. (You can replace “neurodivergent” with depressed, anxious, bipolar, etc. and the diagram works equally well)
ETA: social faux pas, awkwardness, and genuine symptoms of neurodivergence don’t make you an asshole. I shouldn’t have to say this? An “asshole” is someone who enacts a pattern of abusive, controlling, harassing, and/or harmful behavior with no remorse or concern for how other people are affected.
The sentiment is right, but using the phrase wrong with you, might be a little harsh. There's nothing wrong with them, they are who they are.
None of that excuses being an asshole though.
Wrong with you would be more like if they're going through a breakup and they aren't themselves, or going through grief over something etc.
But directed at a ND person where it can come off as being about their ND isn't good.
Edit: "I don't care what's going on with someone, if they're an asshole they're an asshole" would be a better option
I don't go around as a 30 something saying the words of a 15 yr old. Yes it is not as tactful as it should be and I understand the nuance but the idea is the same and I'm not going to change what happened.
Thats also fair. It's a story you're telling and it's what happened.