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I am of the age to have kids, some of my friends have them, but I have mixed feelings about it, just wondering about other people's experiences.

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[โ€“] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's all fair. We still vacation, although they are sanitized "family" vacations for the most part. Plus we aren't the kind of people who want to be tooling about foreign countries without a curated experience. Take us to your beaches, cuisine, alcohol, and cultural artifacts.

You have a lot of work flexibility for those vacations. I can work remotely, but usually I'm not allowed to take my equipment out of the country to do so. My wife has a lot less flexibility. So we are limited by time more than anything else. We live modestly and I make a good living for the cost of living here. Kids would certainly put a damper on that lifestyle, but in our case, they aren't holding us back.

Overpopulation is a whole other thing, of course. Looks to me like we're headed toward another global conflict or pandemic that might resolve that in part. Not saying that's a good thing, but I think life has a way of correcting imbalance whether you do it voluntarily or not. I certainly don't want my kids to have to live through that, but like most other things, that's out of my control and I can only help where I can and hope for the best.

[โ€“] JudahBenHur@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

thats all fair. just to say, my wife doesnt enjoy the flexibility that I do, I just shoot off for 5 days at a time. not having kids to co-parent makes it not be a big deal