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Wow. My cousin is engaged, and he's dated the girl for a year. He broke up with his last girlfriend at the middle of 2023, and got with his current one at the start of 2024. They've been living together for a few months. She is from overseas and is not a citizen, so half the family is questioning if she wants to marry him for citizenship. I guess sometimes, when you know, you know, and I hope it works out for him.
Er, yeah.
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I was just thinking today that all kinds talk of romance has left open discussion in our society to be replaced with cynicism.
And yet romance is still strong in movies, tv and songs. I think I will ignore the cynics.
Love rules. π
This is a country of immigrants. Such questions are shameful.
i know you didn't come down in the last shower of rain.. but no it's not shameful.. not what I've seen.
Exactly.
yeah... I'm an immigrant myself and nearly all the adults in my family who are here are... and it's definitely a thing questioned even within immigrant communities where someone with citizenship/PR starts a new relationship with someone who's just moved in from the motherland.
at least give them a chance
Yes it might be depending on context. But. I literally know of at least 2 marriages in the ethnic community Iβm from that are like this. Person marries a citizen to stay. It not an easy process though, but for some couples they may find the arrangement mutually beneficial so it happens. Of course this does not mean this is the case for Loe Experience relative. Love can happen to anyone too.
I think people tend to have a negative bias, because we've evolved needing to look out for danger to survive.
I kinda feel like I should marry someone from a less desirable country even just as a favour to them. There's some real shitholes out there where even struggling in Australia would be an improvement.