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actual bonding comes later, first you have to spend a bunch of time just being in the presence of other people. make acquaintances using a common activity first is a good approach.
that you say "willing to" already kinda sounds like you don't give others much opportunity to get to know you and vice versa. as another commenter said - you may be stuck in a self limiting loop.
make opportunities for connection first - find a litter clean up volunteer event, or a community garden where they need help, or an after school club, or a friendly working class bar (this was my place of choice for years until I found better alternatives).. the specific place or context doesn't matter. find an activity or thing you enjoy (or could see yourself enjoying) and where other people can see/be around you... and eventually, completely unplanned you will invariably get to know people and then, maybe.... bond with them. bonding isn't a prerequisite to talking and sharing information about yourself or your struggles though. it can be as simple as pulling up a bar stool and raising a glass to someone you just met. or the non alcoholic equivalent if you don't drink, I guess.
Your assuming and interpreting a lot there, guess I should've worded things differently, my bad. Also you don't know me, you don't know what I've been through, what I'm still going through, you have no idea how unlucky I've been with everything, how many times I've tried and have only been hurt over and over again as a result. Let me make this clear: I did not fucking ask to be stuck in this "self limiting loop" and have been bashing my head against a wall for years desperately trying to get out but can't, no need to rub salt in my wounds, I'm just asking for your own experiences and perspectives here, nothing more, nothing less, might help, might not, I don't know.
That aside: thanks for sharing.