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Who Is The Person Bullying You At Work Right Now? How Are You Dealing With This? (lemdit.com)

submitted 1 year ago by PrettyBlackDress@lemdit.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

He's putting me down every chance he gets. Whenever I have even the slightest achievement to celebrate, he is right there to tell me it's pointless and I'll never actually amount to anything.

So far he's been right.

I even tried switching employers to be rid of him but somehow he's always right there wherever I end up, ready to continue tormenting me both at work and later, at home.

I am he. I tried to run but it's no use.

[–] inetknght@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What work do you try to do?

I suggest that, instead of changing employers, you address this bully head on.

Tell him that your employer pays you whether you feel happy or not, and it's not his choice to that.
Tell him that your employer would have already fired you if your employer felt you weren't worth the money they pay you.
Tell him that your coworkers would have been telling you how awful you are, if you truly were awful.
Talk to your coworkers about this bully. He might be bullying them too!

[–] thetreesaysbark@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think you missed the "I am he" part but still most of that applies.