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I think it can be long term a suboptimal strategy.
A good relationship can take many years to grow, and it's very likely that your best partner later in life is one who was there with you during the grind, who knows what it was like before vs after, and has the perspective.
Ideally, who also worked hard on their own career at the same time.
It's nice to have someone to support you during that period of your life, who remembers the tough times and you can reminisce later once things are better.
My partner and I have been together for 15 years now, and we both very much nostalgia all the time over when life was tougher, but also simpler.
I think if you get a partner later when all the dust us settled, you'll never quite be able to capture that same type if relationship and you'll never get quite as close as you could've, cuz they simply just weren't present for that period of your life.