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I'm so tired of the current state of the internet (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Templa@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

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Everywhere you browse, people have such strong opinions about everything and are so toxic or extremely negative. You start playing a game, want to check the forums or something and most of the posts are people being mean to each other. You open social media to keep in touch with people that you'd like to maintain a certain level of contact and there's always some people that are always complaining about every single thing.

I see myself more and more closing myself into a bubble which makes me appreciate Beehaw much more. I know I am guilty of being taken away by the toxicity and sometimes replying things I wouldn't be proud of but since I joined Beehaw I see myself policing myself more and more focused on being better.

Just a quick rant, I currently started playing Baldur's Gate 3 and I am honestly pissed off on the fact people can't give feedback without being rude or "gamers" just shitting on developers because they are stans of another game. I wanted to be active on the forum and comment on bugs and such because I want the game to be better but it is so depressing reading people being awful so often.

Why are we so shitty to each other? I'm so tired.

Edit: Pardon me if I used weird terms or grammar errors, english isn't my first language

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[–] 1984 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I doubt you have met our entire species. You know who you have met? Loud, obnoxious people... Because they are there to be noticed. But there is a selection bias here. Most people are actually really nice but you don't see them because they don't get into fights, they don't argue, they let things go etc.

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'd like to share your optimism... but I've seen some of those "really nice" people who "don't get into fights, they don't argue, they let things go etc" when they're in their homes, behind closed doors, when they think nobody's watching them, when they believe everybody's on their side... I've heard some of them through walls... I've seen what they've done to others... and too many of them turned out to be not nice at all.

I on the other hand might argue, have gotten into a few fights, don't let some things go... maybe you'd call me "not nice"... I call myself "tired of being a doormat"... despite coming to this safe space to be nice, and maybe remember, or sometimes learn, how to be nice.

[–] cubedsteaks 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You sound like me 10 years ago.

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How did that work out?

I think 20 years ago I still sounded like @1984@lemmy.today... but I keep seeing proof to the contrary, and wouldn't want to end up in 30 years like someone who, after asking someone else for help, then proceeds to tear them a new one because they only wasted 2 hours of their own time, before confiding in me: "I don't trust people".

Maybe I've lost faith in humanity... did you gain it back? And if so, how?

[–] cubedsteaks 1 points 1 year ago

I just grew as a person I guess. I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago and I'm sure I'll be different in the next 10 years if I'm still around.

I also cut a lot of people out of my life and cut a lot of certain interactions out of my life. Like for example, I got of 4chan in 2020. I use to be a troll - the kind of person OPs post is complaining about - and now I'm very against it. I always prefer to be honest online instead of just saying whatever to get a response.

I try to have more good faith discussions now instead of antagonizing people.

But I said I sounded like you 10 years ago cause I remember hanging out with people in person, at their houses and at parties and on the streets.. I felt like an observer. It felt like I knew a lot about other people cause I was always listening in.

What changed is that I stopped listening in on those people. Went out of my way to go meet other people instead. Now I'm not seeing those patterns I use to see among the previous groups I hung out in.

I have some faith in humanity but only because I sit around theorizing how to make things better. It's just a theory though. So I know its possible but to make it happen, would take the kind of work and time I don't have and I have no reach.