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I've( 22M ) been an overthinker for almost my entire life. Not only that, I have hyper-anxiety and overwhelmness. I haven't been scheduled with a psychiatrist so far.

A few months ago, I seriously realized that I was wasting my time on devices( phones, laptops etc) and haven't been paying attention to real life and responsibilities. Because I had made devices as a way to escape from reality.

Then I made a schedule to maintain that included low and controlled use of devices and some other things. Journaling was also a part of that.

I began to write my daily events on a journal app in my phone. I had a physical diary that I started to use to write down advices, methods, facts, important instructions that I was gathering from youtube. That diary is now filled around 60%.

I continued writing my daily journal in the app for 1.5 months and then lost the drive to continue for unknown reason. Consider this one of my main psychological problem. I lose drive very quickly.

Then I realized that, when I continued journaling, I had more control of my overall daily activity that I used to do. I had less laziness, more energy, more drive, healthy sleep schedule etc. And now, it seems that I've sunken into my peak rabbithole again.

Now I'm seeking advices from people who turned their life in a positive way by writing journals as a first step. Any other advices except journaling is also welcomed.

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[–] Photuris@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I’m relatively new to Lemmy: what instance(s) in your (collective) opinion strike that sweet spot between being a) very free speech oriented and minimally censored, but also b) not taken over by alt-right CHUDs, trashed up like 4chan, or hosting CP, gore, and all that nastiness that comes with zero moderation?

What I’m looking for, is just enough moderation to keep out the 4chan shit, but anything below that threshold of actually hurting people, pretty much goes uncensored.

I just want to use the c-word, b-word, and r-word, basically. Like, there are a lot of stories posted involving JD Vance, so…

[–] Sixtyforce@sh.itjust.works 2 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Fedecan is solid. basically the current Canadian instances work together as a somewhat joint network now.

I like mine, the admin is TheDude and I like their Dude inspired attitude. Piracy allowed here too not just dbzer0, which is why my new emulation community is there.

It's a toss up, but dbzer0 is more overt which is appealing. I'd go with them if I wasn't in Canada

Shitjustworks is very laid back in a Canadian way, and the domain name scares away prudes/puritans which is something I value like yourself.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

yeah you said it better haha

[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (2 children)

my instance (lemmy.dbzer0.com, commonly referred to as db0) is an anarchist leftist comm.

it's also where ~~r/privacy~~ r/piracy migrated to, you can find them (megathread and all) at !piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com

lemmy.ml, hexbear.net, and lemmygrad.ml are often called the "tankie triad" because they're full of tankies, people will often mistake you for a tankie just by the virtue of being on that instance.

as for other instances,

.world is the biggest and quite liberal/centrist/moderate with pretty heavy handed moderation.

lemmy.blahaj.zone is by trans people for trans people, I believe non-trans allies are allowed on it but if you're not LGBT it's probably not the best place for you.

pawb.social is furries

lemm.ee, lemmy.ca and sh.itjust.works I don't know the politics of but I would assume leftist and I haven't heard anything bad said about any of them, will leave anything past that to others.

this might be worth a post of its own if you're looking for more info than that tbh

but yeah really you're not gonna find right wing CHUDs or cp or gore or anything here there's generally good enough content moderation to prevent that and really the only instance with crazy censorship is the one you picked lol

e: fuckin auto cucumber

[–] Photuris@lemmy.ml 2 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Neat, that was really helpful.

Yes, I’d simply picked my instance at random.

[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 18 hours ago

yeah I started on .world because it was the biggest (.ml is 2nd I believe) but eventually grew tired of the neoliberalism especially surrounding Luigi, always really appreciated the vibes of the db0 punks so decided to join them.

OH I almost forgot, the final nail in the coffin was when I learned that while .world is federated with db0 they have !piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com blocked. so as a .world user I was unable to access it at all.

I decided they have no right to make that decision on my behalf and made this db0 account that same day

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

r/privacy
!piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com

lol piracy vs privacy :D Nice spelling miatake. But it still fits and checks out.
I'd assume sh.itjust.works is just primarily IT related communities

[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 18 hours ago

lol missed the autocorrect backstab

good shout ty!