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Noise.
This one really gets me. Makes me feel like a cranky old asshole, but I find myself regularly thinking (all directed at my neighbors):
“Do you really need to slam the front door on your way out every day?”
“Do you really need to slam the car door every time you get in and out?”
“Does your meaningless 3 hour phone conversation really need to be on speaker for the whole neighborhood to hear?”
“Are you an elephant? Or is there a reason you can’t walk across the apartment without banging each foot like you have a vendetta against the floor?”
I could go on and on.
Me, I'm hard of hearing and probably have undiagnosed ADHD. You may have heard of auditory stimming: basically, that the ability to make noise that one can hear helps regulate dopamine production. I need to hear the door close to feel like I closed it. Hearing my own footsteps allows me to take my concentration off walking without falling over. I sing more-or-less constantly.
I stopped living in apartments ASAP because I didn't want to inconvenience those around me, but I can't just "be quiet" unless I'm actively concentrating on it the whole time.
People who use speakerphone in public were raised wrong, though.
I totally understand this, and it makes a lot of sense. But your type of behavior is not the problem. You are aware of this fact about yourself, so you avoid living in apartments. That makes you a considerate and thoughtful human being. I appreciate you, and wish my neighbors were like you (by leaving lol).
The shit I’m dealing with is at all times of day and night and is from all my neighbors, all of whom are very different people. The sounds are extreme, startlingly loud, and are clearly because of their lack of consideration. I’m continually dismayed that they’re so oblivious of their surroundings.
I had a girlfriend who would slam the fuck out of the toilet lid every time she used it. Not like, extra force, as far as i could tell, just let it drop from vertical to close. Super loud. It was ruining the hinges... I asked her over and over to please stop doing that. No change... I was set to install cork bumpers and she insisted NO, can't do that. Okay... so stop slamming it? A year later, still every single time.
Mate, now I want you as my neighbor.
Can you be my neighbor? Let's buy a lot somewhere lmao
We would be like ninjas (almost)
Especially when it's comes from their mouth from chewing food.