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Either from abusive parents, toxic relationships, short or long term bullying or any other kind of traumatic past that gave you some survival reflexes that are not longer relevant but are hard for you to get rid of.

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[โ€“] hactar42@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I'm 44 years old and I still can't stand people standing behind me if I'm sitting down. When I was a kid and I did something wrong my dad would sit me at the table while he walked around yelling at me and every so often he would walk behind me and slap the back of my head.

To this day I still get so uncomfortable that I have to get up or ask the person to move. Even if it's my own kids, I can't stand it.

[โ€“] monovergent@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

I am just like that and was surprised how few people mention this when I searched it online. The other day, I stared down a group of people standing and chatting behind my seat while I was trying to eat my lunch. Thought it was just some common etiquette or evolutionary instinct and stared until they walked away.

Can't recall if there was any specific thing in my childhood that causes it, but reading this made me realize that I'm not alone in this survival reflex.