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[serious] What survival reflexes of your own experience are hard for you to get rid of? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by Merlu@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Either from abusive parents, toxic relationships, short or long term bullying or any other kind of traumatic past that gave you some survival reflexes that are not longer relevant but are hard for you to get rid of.

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[–] monovergent@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I am just like that and was surprised how few people mention this when I searched it online. The other day, I stared down a group of people standing and chatting behind my seat while I was trying to eat my lunch. Thought it was just some common etiquette or evolutionary instinct and stared until they walked away.

Can't recall if there was any specific thing in my childhood that causes it, but reading this made me realize that I'm not alone in this survival reflex.