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sometimes, the most valuable lessons are the harshest ones. What’s a piece of brutal, no BS advice you think every younger generation needs to hear? It could be from your own experience, something you learned the hard way, or just a tough truth no one talks about enough. Let’s hear the cold, honest reality.


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[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago (2 children)

If something seems wrong for more than 24 hours, get to a doctor, urgent care, or ER.

Thanksgiving, 2018. I was 49 years old. A good time was had by all. Met the girl who would become my daughter-in-law.

3 days later I developed really bad heartburn. Yes, I did have that extra plate of sweet potatoes. "Take some pepto, you'll be fine."

Monday - heartburn all day. "Eh, it's the holidays, you're already working from home, don't be a wuss."

Tuesday - "Man, I wish I could have got to sleep last night, oh well, work isn't going to do itself."

Wednesday - Massive nausea and vomiting. "OK, now I'm taking a day off."

Thursday - Heartburn moved into my upper arms. "That's a thing??!?!?" Center of my chest feels like there's a chunk of granite, pulling down on all my innards.

Advice nurse: "Yeah, go to the ER, get checked out. Don't drive yourself."

ER: "Blood test confirms the heart attack, come with us."

Thursday: Cardiac ward.

Friday: Cardiac ward doctor: "That heavy feeling is your heart, every time it beats, it's only pumping out 30% of what it's supposed to. That's the line between 'walking around, talking to people', and 'no longer walking around, talking to people.' You have to have open heart surgery."

Saturday-Sunday: Cardiac ward.

Monday: Open heart surgery, ICU.

Tuesday: ICU "OK, let's get you up and walking around!" Really? Are you sure? "Yup! Come with us! Let's see you walk!"

Wed-Thur: Cardiac ward.

Fri: Back home on a 6 week recovery clock.

[–] Cypher@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

The vagus nerve is a bitch, it gives very confused messages.

[–] Proles_Uprising_Now@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Been a tough couple of years... congestive heart failure, 2nd heart attack, now my doc is making noises about potential cancer. 🤷‍♂️

More tests that had been scheduled for September have been moved up to the 25th.